Here’s the reality. You are not competing for a football player/oboe player/[insert specialty here] spot. You just aren’t.
To make it as simple as possible (and please note that I am not denigrating anybody’s qualifications), most top colleges will field a football team next year. And the year after. And the year after that. So every year, you should expect to take ~22 slots off the table from the beginning.
Using another analogy. Let’s say your HS is doing Wicked as its Spring musical. There are 33 parts available (12 principal/21 chorus). You (let’s assume you’re male for this exercise) are one of 100 students trying out. Does that mean that you have a 1:3 shot at a part? No, because there is no way you will be cast as Elphaba. Just accept that and move on.