hi all - this was a big week for early decisions rolling out, and I know more are scheduled to come out this weekend and over the next couple of weeks. For those of you who got good news this week - congrats! But this post is for the rest of you - those of you who didn’t get the news you wanted to hear and the ones who are still waiting and anxiously refreshing your portal and your CC threads…
In order to pass the time, I thought we could start a little thread where those of us who have been through this before post our ED disappointments (and hopefully happy endings).
I’ll start. I applied early decision to UPenn. A few older kids I knew and liked went there, and my extended family was in Philly. It was a beautiful day when I visited and I snapped a photo posing with my grandma in front of the LOVE sign, and I somehow got the idea that Penn was the perfect school for me. I applied ED and got rejected. Not deferred, flat out rejected! I was stunned and embarrassed. I knew deferral was a real possibility, but rejected!? That seemed harsh.
I ended up at Kenyon, where I spent the most amazing 4 years in tiny, bucolic Gambier. I met the best friends of my life, some of whom I still talk to pretty much every day. I majored in creative writing, interned at the Kenyon Review, and loved living on a beautiful, rural campus in a college town where (almost) everyone knew each others’ names. In hindsight, it’s hard to imagine myself at a larger urban school like Penn, though I know it can be a great choice for some people. Turned out I was a small LAC person at heart, and I’m grateful I ended up at Kenyon. My life would be so different if I hadn’t. (I still think Penn should have deferred me though).
For those of you who don’t get in early to your dream school, remember these decisions are based on so many factors and, no matter what decision you get, it says little about how wonderful, qualified, and worthy of attending an amazing college you are. Of course, you may be sad or jealous or even angry if the college you love didn’t show you love back - absolutely take the time you need to feel all of that. But don’t forget that life unfolds in strange and unexpected ways, and what seems like bad news at first may actually turn out to be the best news after all.
I’m wishing you all good luck in these next couple of weeks - whatever that means for you!
Anyone else have a story to share?