It’s great that you’ve been researching colleges and realize the importance of direct admissions at many schools.
This site may be helpful for you: Direct Admit Engineering
This thread may also be useful to you: List of universities with direct engineering major admissions
With respect to schools interested in women engineers, if a school is tech-y and has approximately a 50/50 ratio of males and females, there’s a benefit for women. Additionally, you can look at College Navigator, the federal government’s website on colleges. In the admissions section it will show the admissions rate for males and for females.