<p>OP, since you mentioned some social issues with teachers, I want to make sure you know that there are places that have social skills training. I know Jewish Social Services does it some places-- and it doesn’t matter whether you are Jewish. </p>
<p>ADHD is such a catch-all that I really think it can include very different kids with very different issues. You need to address the behaviors that are a problem. If it were my child, I would start with a counselor so that he cooperates with whatever intervention is applied. I would then write a letter to the school requesting a 504 meeting. Read up before you go in and have a list of possible interventions. Ideas for your son’s afternoon problem include asking whether they can give him preferential scheduling (so his more important academics are in the morning), have testing in morning only OR schedule some sort of study period right after lunch that will help him regroup and get organized. </p>
<p>I woud second a coach or, if there is none in your area, an “organizational tutor.” Ask around. You don’t want anyone who takes over and spoonfeeds your son; you want someone who teaches your son how to organize himself.</p>