<p>Okay, I'm going to solve this problem for you, and in a very scientific way. I heard this on the radio a few years ago and wrote it down. This is how you can get a guy to fall in love with you in 30 seconds. Follow these easy steps:</p>
<ol>
<li>Lean forward</li>
<li>Relax your body</li>
<li>Smile</li>
<li>Put your hand behind your neck</li>
<li>Show your palms</li>
<li>Tilt your head</li>
<li>Touch his knee</li>
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<p>P.S. Let us know how it works out.</p>
<p>There are only 2 possible scenarios, and I'm going to be brutally honest.</p>
<p>1). You are not engaging in social interaction with men on a sexual level, or you do not exude sexuality. Men will assume you are uninterested. To deal with this, learn how to smile sexily, learn to walk in heels, wear sexy clothing, etc. Develop and embrace your sexuality, and it will show in your body language. It is my guess that this scenario is most likely.</p>
<p>2). You are ugly. Sadly, guys are very, very superficial. Even more so than girls. This changes when you get to be my age (22) but only a little. Unlike many girls, guys don't care about your accomplishments, your status, etc. They focus mainly on your physical assets. You can change how you look. Go to the gym, get makeup, whatever.</p>
<p>Why would you need one of those?</p>
<p>that's funny as hell, Puzzled88 :)</p>
<p>I honestly wouldn't worry about it. Personally, I've never been in a serious relationship, but that never bothered me all too much. I guess some of it had to do with the fact that I went to an all-guy school for high school. But really, you'll have plenty of opportunities to date/begin a relationship once you get to college, and I'm sure not all guys will see you just as a friend.</p>
<p>By the way, you're from Dallas? I actually live in Carrollton and will be off to Princeton this fall ;)</p>
<p>diesel, it's crazy but true. Right after I heard it, I tried it at a cocktail party, just as a joke really, but I had a neighbor eating out of my hand.</p>
<p>Especially coming into a school like NYU, for that matter.</p>
<p>On an unrelated note, hope you enjoy your stay here. :)</p>
<p>In addition to what wutang previously stated...if you're ugly, just give up. Seriously.</p>
<p>If you are even slightly attractive, you will get some attention from the guys. Guys are just that simple. Your hotness is directly proportional to the level of attention you get, although there is a price to pay when you're receiving a lot of attention (ie. guys see you as a piece of meat).</p>
<p>I've helped things along by asking guy friends, "Do you like me?" If they say yes, away you go. Problem: If they say no, that will kinda interfere with the good old friendship. Getting rid of guys when you no longer want their boyfriendship will be your next problem, at least it has been for me. Try not to choose guys that you have to cross paths with all day long -- breaking up can be awkward.</p>
<p>uhh i am a girl and seriously, don't listen to the half of this. (esp. firewalker) looks are in the eyes of the beholder, and YOU can be the beholder. you need to learn to think that you are sexy. it's taken a while for me to realize this, i was always wondering why all the ugly <em>sry</em> girls got dates while i wasn't. it's all about cultivating your inner sexuality. you need to find it, and bring it out. you're beautiful, and until you start thinking this, your boyfriend problem is here to stay. also, focusing so much on having a boyfriend is destructive. the best things come to those least expecing them. i'm sure plenty of girls reading this wish they had your knack for conversation with the opposite sex. look at it this way, it could be much worse. you could be ugly AND shy, then you're definitely not getting laid. at least you're not shy, and you're beautiful because you're you. ugliness is a disease of the inside, it is lack of confidence and sexuality. in order to be beautiful you must believe it. seeing is believing, as one might say. anyway, appreciate what you have and take things slow, you don't need to rush things. someone will come along, believe this, do not doubt yourself, and worry about other things, like your future and doing well academically. and being a strong woman. good luck.</p>
<p>aspiring, good post.</p>
<ol>
<li>Rotf.</li>
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<p>I've NEVER hit on an ugly chick. Anecdotal, I know, but still worth something.</p>
<p>And read what she wrote...not only is she unsure of why guys haven't been attracted to her, she seems unsure of her own level of attractiveness.</p>
<p>ug. </p>
<p>ok. here's the thing. it IS possible to be an attractive girl and to generally avoid/miss out on dating in college. unfortunately if you're not super into crashing random parties and hooking up with random dudes, the dating scene (at my school, anyway) is fairly lackluster. people generally aren't interested in taking any sort of time to date or get to know people or whatever. as such, its really very easy to go through school without having many suitors. </p>
<p>im 21, just graduated, consider myself reasonably attractive, have no outstanding personality flaws, am in shape, bathe religiously, and have only very recently even approached having an actual relationship. i've dated very, very casually, but i'm not into random hook ups and i didn't get much (read:any) action in college as a result. being somewhat shy doesn't help. </p>
<p>there should be a distinction between getting hit on by random dudes who just want to sleep with you and guys who are genuinely interested in you beyond the next morning or week or whatever. there's also a difference between not dating because you're ugly or a prude or boring and not dating because you just haven't met anyone you're interested in dating. please, if you fall into the latter category, try not to consider it a personality flaw. it's very simply a matter of circumstance, and the odds are that you WILL eventually find someone (and likely, lots of someones) who you are interested in and who reciprocate that interest. </p>
<p>my best advice as someone who's lived this is to avoid focusing on it too much. make yourself available, meet people, but don't rush into things just because you want a boyfriend. and really? i think guys are probably more interested in you than you suspect. i can't tell you how many times i've realized after the fact that someone was hitting on me or was somehow otherwise interested. so just because they're not super overt doesn't mean that they're not there. </p>
<p>i agree with aspiring_1010- it's seriously not a big deal. focus on important stuff (making friends at school, classes, clubs, jobs) and the guy thing will happen.</p>
<p>to the OP, what you will discover about yourself, is that, like my D, you are far more mature then most of your guys friends, who are in reallity maybe a bit intimidated</p>
<p>there have been guys attracted to both my Ds who they have absolutely no interest in that way, and didn't even notice the guys were interested because they just weren't on the radar</p>
<p>and imagine the charm of someone like firewalker...better to be single, if you know what I mean</p>
<p>seriously. agree with allllllllllllll of that.</p>
<p>Ugly girls only get hit on because they're sluts. Even then, it's only by the guys who play with yugi-o cards and never wash their hair.</p>
<p>I hate to say this but if guy's aren't hitting on you, there's only a couple possibilities. Either a) you're not as hot as you think. b) guys see you as socially awkward or c) you're just oblivious to the signs.</p>
<p>btw firewalker is the only one here giving advice that isn't saturated with ignorance</p>
<p>you have to be pretty significantly unattractive in order to NOT get hit on in some capacity by SOMEONE. since i don't suspect that the OP is categorically unattractive, its very likely that she's either A- clueless to the attention she gets, or B- her guy friends/guys in general are interested but intimidated. </p>
<p>i don't know that anything firewalker has said here could be considered advice, and i'd argue that much of it is fairly ignorant. but ok.</p>
<p>Because I'm the one who posted a thread on an anonymous internet forum asking for relationship advice.</p>
<p>"Ugly girls only get hit on because they're sluts. Even then, it's only by the guys who play with yugi-o cards and never wash their hair."</p>
<p>Hey, come on now...we all have to settle for what we can. :) In the words of Ron & Fez, "it don't make you a bad person" :p</p>
<p>dude...that's not saying much. look at you</p>
<p>and shouldn't you be out boinking with all those hot babes you pick up???</p>
<p>haha :P just teasing, but seriously, don't be so obnoxious! there is such thing as inner beauty.</p>