<p>Women are not people, they are devices built by our Lord Jesus Christ for our entertainment</p>
<p>Now, now...:p</p>
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don't get into a serious relationship with your first bf. fyi.
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<p>agreed. it will end up as a horror show. I've seen it happen more than once.</p>
<p>^ Not necessarily...! </p>
<p>It really depends on the person, I guess. My current BF and I have been together for 3 years (and through really rough times) and this is our first relationship. I have another friend who is seriously dating her first boyfriend and they have been together for even longer than us!</p>
<p>I guess the point may be, don't go into it thinking it'll get serious, but there is always a chance it could develop as such and still be good...</p>
<p>My perspective on relationships is scarred, I guess. In my experience, every serious relationship involving someone who has never had a significant other and someone who has had experience, has turned into a nightmare. Once I managed to be collateral damage, which really sucked. I don't know about first time relationships when it comes to both sides...but yeah...I'd advise anyone to proceed with extreme caution at the very least.</p>
<p>Okay, so my personal experience isn't really what a lot of these people are saying. Not every attractive, smart, friendly girl just wakes up to guys waiting to date her. I used to think that because there weren't boys breaking down my door, I wasn't attractive or I was weird or something. But like you, OP, I'm a normal, likable girl, yet I never had a serious relationship in high school. I thought that all would change at college and I really put myself out there. I hate to tell you that it is just as hard to meet guys looking for a relationship in college as it is in high school, if not harder. A lot of guys in college don't want to be tied down, they just want to hook up. That's an obstacle you will run into. But don't settle and hook up with any interested guy. It may take a while - a lot longer than you want, I'm sure - but a guy WILL come along eventually that's right for you. And remember that whether or not there is a guy in your life is not a reflection on what kind of person you are. Your friends are an accurate reflection of that. So don't worry!</p>
<p>I've just about given up. I can't find any girls who are worthy enough of wearing the family name, if you get my drift.</p>
<p>Also, my situation at home doesn't help. My uncle has been through three divorces. My mom is divorced and both of us don't get along with my dad. My grandparents are the only happily married couple in my family and they're old so it often doesn't show. Aside from my grandparents I've never seen a working marriage.</p>
<p>Never had a relationship in high school. Lots of female friends but no relationships. Entering my third year of college and the same story persists.</p>
<p>Right now I don't have the time or money to waste on a relationship that will probably just end in stress. Love is a crime that would rob me of my academic prowess, and the only reason I think I have a 3.97 is because I don't have any women to distract me on weekends so I stay at home and study like a nerd. (Or it could be because I took a lot of easy gen eds for the first two years...I'm not THAT smart).</p>
<p>Also, girls don't want guys like me anyways. I'm a firm believer in waiting until marriage for sex, I don't drink any alcohol at all, I'm not the strongest guy in the world, I don't know how to grill, and I prefer cooking to yardwork. They want all the uber-macho idiots who only wind up abusing their spouses.</p>
<p>There is a reason I often change the last letter in "relationship" to a "T".</p>
<p>AFPrep, most girls eventually grow up and get over wanting the "bad boys" and the "frat boys", and then they want a guy just like you! (Hard-working, intelligent, respectful and a good provider). Don't give up!</p>
<p>Aw, AFPrep, you sound like a really good guy! How is it that you haven't managed to meet at least one girl that is relationship material?</p>
<p>Heh, I have a similar family story, because everyone's either divorced or dead or never married. But because of that I don't believe in marriage, not necessarily relationships in general.</p>
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Aw, AFPrep, you sound like a really nice guy! How is it that you haven't managed to meet at least one girl that is relationship material?
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<p>ok, so I was reading Seventeen on line at the grocery store the other day, and amongst all the crap, there was a "reader tip" thing on this section they had on "hooking up" (don't get me started...) </p>
<p>so it was like:
"Ask him, 'Do you have a brother named John?' He'll say no--but start talking to you, and if he finds out you made it up, he'll think it's cute!"</p>
<p>at first it sounded adorable, but then I thought....what if he really did have a brother named John?
haha. so think of a more obscure name. but it's still cute.</p>
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Opening your mouth doesn't equate to intelligence.
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well obviously not when it comes to your case...I would just keep it zipped because... you get the point <em>pats on the back</em></p>
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Also, girls don't want guys like me anyways. I'm a firm believer in waiting until marriage for sex and I prefer cooking to yardwork.
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<p>Actually that kinda sounds hot. guys who cook are amazing!</p>
<p>Hey, I also like a guy that can cook too. You can cook for me anytime ;). In some ways though, finding a relationship in college can be kind of tough too because guys are still in the "bunny hop" stage. Eventually, most men will want to settle down until late 20's and early 30's *that's when love songs actually have meaning to them :). As for women, MOST of us will always want to settle down and want a serious commitment.</p>
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Eventually, most men will want to settle down until late 20's and early 30's *that's when love songs actually have meaning to them .
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<p><em>wipes sweat</em> Whew, and here I was thinking I'd have to be tied down early. </p>
<p>Not all girls want to settle down! Actually, I'd hate to be tied down and have to clean up after another body. :P</p>
<p>The world is cruel. That's all I have to say.</p>
<p>Don't worry about not having a boyfriend. I haven't had one yet either. I figure, when the timing's right, I'll find a really hot and nice one!</p>
<p>^no, you have unrealistically high standards. You're only going to get uglier from here on out (and the college life style wears on you), unless you opt for cosmetic surgery.</p>
<p>The really hot nice guys who go out with below average looking women don't exist. Really hot NICE guys don't exist, period. Find a guy with similar interests, and be willing to settle on looks.</p>
<p>dear god some of you people are so superficial. dear.</p>