<p>^^maybe you should work on that</p>
<p>^^ Amen. No need to do it for the attention.</p>
<p>1st base ≠ attention</p>
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I guess. If it’s not too important to you right now, then oh well. Right?</p>
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He’s not saying do it for attention. Just to get it over with once and for all. No one does first base for attention…</p>
<p>I think what you are doing is awesome, OP. I’m glad I witnessed the “glamour” of Middle School/High School relationships back in Middle School so I could avoid these supposedly “glamourous” relationships when grades counted.</p>
<p>But girls kind of wrecked my group of friends back in MS…soooo…stay away until you are finished w/ HS.</p>
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<p>Uhh, maybe if you’re 13. But no one at 17 years old brags about reaching first base.</p>
<p>^^ Yay, another person in agreement!</p>
<p>None of you are hitting the real issue. Eventually OP will go to college and be surrounded by opportunities (if he’s approachable, which it sounds like he is). If he decides to wait until he’s 19, 20, or older to have sex, he should make sure his first time is with a girl he plans to stick around with.</p>
<p>It’s very difficult and awkward to start occasionally hooking up with girls who haven’t dealt with virgins in years.</p>
<p>The whole “this is moral” or “way to go OP” is irrelevant, in my opinion. He does what he does. He needs to make sure he comes to terms with what his decisions mean, though. It means he’ll have a harder time “catching up” later on in life.</p>
<p>I would prefer a guy to be a virgin. But, unless I meet the love of my life and get married in the next few years, I don’t have plans to have sex for quite a while. I’m weird (and probably asexual).</p>
<p>I don’t find it at all odd that you haven’t gotten to first base yet (is that just kissing? Or is it, like, making out? French kissing? I don’t really know). I first kissed someone 3 days before I turned 17, and I probably wouldn’t have done so if he weren’t going to be on the other side of the world in a day and maybe for forever (deadlines, man). But, again, I’m weird.</p>
<p>I know people who have waited until their early 20s to have sex, just out of lack of interest (which often engenders lack of opportunity, so, perhaps a different situation than yours). Some of them have only had sex since then with committed partners while others have had one night stands just to see what it’s all about. Your having waited doesn’t have to determine the rest of your sex life.</p>
<p>Even though I’m a huge proponent of kisses and intercourse being significant/poetic/meaningful and I hate cynical takes on them, I don’t want to force my ideas onto anyone else. I mean, sure, in “The Inner Ring,” CS Lewis did worry about the virgins of the world engaging in carnal activities only to gain the knowledge of more experienced people and thus be again included fold, and, yes, such a situation does horrify me, but I can’t tell you, OP, that it’s not okay for you to do that if you want to. Nor should I, for that matter, say that it’s more okay for you to align with my views and abstain. Do what you will; be influenced by others if you wish to be.</p>
<p>I am neither bisexual nor gay. I’m also going to college in the fall. </p>
<p>Thank you for all the replies so far and thank you for being mature since I was expecting a lot of immature comments.</p>
<p>Wait until your married, or at least really love someone.</p>
<p>I don’t care as long as you do not look down upon me for not being one.</p>
<p>Okay, so I think you should get first base out of the way. Practice makes perfect! I mean, it’s going to suck when you do kiss a girl you really like and you completely slobber all over her. Very unattractive. </p>
<p>And being an 18 year old male virgin is very attractive, considering so many guys are man-hoes. Unlessss you’re completely unhygienic and hideous, then it’s not so much attractive as expected. </p>
<p>I’m a girl.</p>
<p>What you don’t like vag or something? Jk I respect you. I’m almost eighteen and pretty much a virgin. </p>
<p>Guy. </p>
<p>First base isn’t a big deal btw. Third base is when the fun starts.</p>
<p>Guy.</p>
<p>And it’s not really a big deal I guess. I think you’re a little picky. If anything, having sex early on gives you experience for college and future relationships. It’s kind of like when you find “the one,” you actually know what you’re doing. I lost it at 15, but I didn’t rush and kind of had the same mentality as you. I wanted to have my first kiss be really special (I know, lame). I had plenty of opportunities but it didn’t feel like any were the “right” one. It was really stupid of me, because my first kiss suckeddd. Dude, you need experience. Don’t be THAT picky, I mean, if they’re attractive, what’s wrong with a casual hookup?</p>
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<p>Honestly, IDGAFand don’t think you should either. Just let yourself go into free fall.</p>
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<p>Do what you gotta do. Just make sure you grab the bull by its horns when the opportunity presents itself.</p>
<p>well obviously you’re gay.
if you haven’t found a girl you’ve “liked liked” in 18 years then you’re gay bro.
just accept it.</p>
<p>^Well, asexuality is always an option, too. :p</p>
<p>And in all honesty, OP may not possess homosexual tendencies; perhaps he is inclined to wait for the appearance of someone he can truly and honestly develop deep, long-lasting feelings for. You don’t have to fall in love more than once to know what it is once you’ve fallen in it.</p>
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<p>Wow, I totally typed something almost exactly the same as that and then realized that you beat me to it. :(</p>