<p>Interested Dad</p>
<p>Like at every college, there is a spectrum of students from zealots to completely complacent/apathetic individuals with the majority somewhere in the middle. </p>
<p>I'm sorry if your daughter felt "beaten over the head" with the honor code by her tourguide, as that was/is a gross misrepresentation of the code in the life of Haverford students... it's actually something very positive and not overbearing in the least. Her guide may have been "aggressive" in explaining the code because it's such a central experience to HC (and you can ONLY understand it in its complexity if you experience it) and IT IS NOT for everyone, so that the guide may have spent time discussing the code to help applicants decide if it appeals to them or not. The honor code isn't like a material resource at haverford that can be explained in a simple sentence or even paragraph. Haverford distinguishes itself from the other colleges because of the honor code and, because of the Code, it probably repels more applicants than it attracts... top students who have grown too accustomed to thriving in a competitive environment where external recognition is demanded... but that's fine with me and to probably many people affiliated with the college as well.</p>
<p>As an example, my brother chose Swat over Haverford and I the opposite based on the honor code (and a few other issues as well). But when he started taking classes at HC (Japanese, advanced topic econ) and experienced the code for himself, he thought it was a "good" idea, gave a unique undergraduate experience but it didn't particularly resonate with him. He also said, and I agree, that the code could only survive at Haverford. He couldn't imagine an honor code at swat, not because the students there "didn't need an honor code" to be responsible and respectful to each other, as you too often suggest, but rather because Swat students just don't care about such things as the culture there is more individualistic, less community focused, more sarcastic and swat relishes the tough, stressed-out "see how much work I have" bravado it perpetuates... by the way, talking about work loads at Haverford is frowned upon. </p>
<p>However, there are some draw backs to the honor code and the sense of community and modesty it encourages. For one, there is being modest, and then there is being MODEST to the point where it hampers people's desire to confront others, debate and take action and I found some HC students coming too close to the latter. I did find it refreshing at times to go to Swat, hang out with my brother, my girlfriend, their friends and my friends for that reason. However, for me, despite its few shortcomings, the experiences and opportunities the honor code offers outweighs the (-).</p>
<p>Finally, I see that you are very interested in giving your personal experience with college admisisons and generously supporting college applicants in their decisions with your advice (3000+ posts!), but as someone who has actually experienced the honor code at Haverford, and is familiar with the workings of both Swarthmore (1 year older brother), Haverford (me) and Bryn Mawr (2 year older sister), I would encourage you to appreciate the limits of your experience and knowledge. After all, I'm sure you do not want to unintentionally provide inaccurate information to trusting college applicants.</p>