$10k for flowers?! And my kid is thinking $2k is outrageous for some things that will go into compost bin at the end of the night.
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I agree - it was sticker shock for sure! I think some florists just go nuts over the outdoor & barn weddings and want to cover everything in greenery & flowers. My daughter didnât care about the flowers either. The florist we chose did an excellent job and wasnât caught up in the social media marketing of it all.
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We had two of these near where the vows were taken. Planted by our CSA owner in pots we got at Big Lots. Total cost $40 each and we enjoyed them all summer!
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Ancient history, but we had a wedding brunch instead of dinner, dancing, etc. I attended another wedding brunch earlier, and really enjoyed that venue. Minimal flowers. We bought potted flowering plants, and donated them to the church garden.
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Speaking of bouquets, apparently there is a growing trend to do âplant bouquets.â Lol. Cuttings of plants (pothos, ivy, etc.) that can be later propagated to create a âwedding keepsakeâ plant.
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This is what I most likely will be doing! Planting a couple of baskets for the ceremony spot.
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Iâd ditch the favor unless itâs something edible. The last wedding I went to had a large donut in a cute box. We all ate them on the way to our car. Few people care about personalized items.
My daughter talked to a lot of florists and found someone who could work in her budget. Instead of arrangements she had an assortment of small vases with different in season âwildâ flowers. She saved on the photographer by not doing engagement photos.
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Personally, I wouldnât skimp on the venue, food or photographer. Flowers/decorations are nice - but I think some of this could be scaled down, some DIY. Favors - just keep them consumable. Donât think a band is necessary - we had the most fun at a recent wedding where the kids played songs from a playlist using speakers - we all knew most of the songs played and had great fun singing along, dancing to them. Cousinâs wedding had a saxaphone player (big bucks apparently) - but no one was even listening or even paying attention.
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There was a ten piece band at sonâs wedding last month (including a saxophone player). They just really wanted a live band . The band was fantastic and people danced all night and tons of comments about how great the band was. So, I think it just depends on what the couple wants and what their spending priorities are.
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Agree with this. A nephew had a live band that was fantastic. Dance floor packed all night long and they even paid to have them play an extra hour because the party was still going strong. Personal preference.
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AgreeâŠan excellent band was our big splurge for Dâs wedding and they had people up and dancing all night. No regrets.
I do know that some couples prefer a quieter event and that is great too. But this is what D and SIL wanted.
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Youâre never going to please everyone.
My kids decided in order to have the wedding they wanted and to pay for it themselves, that the rehearsal dinner wasnât for every out of town guest but just the wedding party.
I had a person who was very upset about it. But then again, they are the one whoâs upset about everything. Canât please everyone all the time.
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Son and daughter in law also just had the wedding party and family for their rehearsal dinner last month. And even that was 36 people, as most people in the wedding party had spouses that were also included. So, including all the out of town guests as well would have been too much. But, they did have a welcome party after the rehearsal dinner and everyone that had been invited to the wedding was invited to the welcome party. And most people came to that, more than they originally thought might. It was fun and gave a chance for everyone to socialize before the big day.
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There is a charity group here that picks up the flowers after events, rearranges them, and delivers them to hospitals and nursing homes. Itâs nice that they can brighten up others for a week after the wedding. Not $10k nice, but nice.
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I went to a wedding where the greenery on the chuppah was wild grape vines ripped off a relativeâs garage. Quite the savings and absolutely lush and beautiful.
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Unfortunately the kids hadnât planned for that either. They wanted to do this themselves and didnât ask for much help.
My nephew is getting married this weekend and itâs a complete mystery. The kids wanted to elope, her mother wanted a wedding and sheâs doing it all themselves. The grooms parents are in the middle of a contentious divorce and arenât really talking. The groom has no idea, there are no attendants that I know of. No one knows if thereâs an officiant.
But at the end of the day, everyone is married. The kids are happy and I donât really care how itâs pulled off.
Unfortunately we wonât be there as my daughter is having surgery across the country and my husband and I are going to be there with her. Because Iâd love to give a report on this shindig
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My mother always told me to get married at Christmas because the church is already decorated (and usually the restaurants too). My godfather got married on Dec 26 and my mother said the church was beautiful and it didnât cost them a thing.
On the other hand, my friend was going to get married on May 7 one year - the day before MOtherâs Day. All the flowers were going to cost double. They moved the wedding back a week and saved a lot. Avoid V-Day, Motherâs day to save on flowers.
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Definitely personal preference. And of course, dictated by the B and G. In this case, the B really wanted the saxaphone player but like I said, it didnât look like it went over well. Maybe the venue had something to do with it too - huge ballroom, could have easily held over 500 people and the sax player was lost in one corner.
I finally get to join this thread. D1 said yes yesterday at 11,000 feet on the top of Mammoth Mountain. We are over the moon for them! No details yet, but we will have a family celebration when they return to San Diego this week.
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Congratulations!! What a happy picture!!!
Where are all our summer wedding folks? Any weddings on tap for the next couple of months??
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