I think it is fair to say that you want to sit down with her to discuss her college list. It is important that you let your D know any restrictions you have (ex. financial, geographic, anything else) before she starts to apply. And you want to be sure her list is reasonable and includes reach, match, and safety schools and that she is on top of all the deadlines. Your D can lead the way but if you will be paying for college it is reasonable that you be kept in the loop.