2nd Semester: What's going on???

<p>I’m a 2nd semester freshman and this semester so far has been crazy.</p>

<p>From the start, I felt like something was going to be different. The friends that I had made in the first semester were still pretty close and everything seemed fine, but something just wasn’t right.</p>

<p>I began to fall for one of my best friends here and told her a few weeks in. She basically told me that she wanted to stay best friends and that she doesn’t have the same feelings for me, at least right now. She was really nice about it, but of course, it still hurt.</p>

<p>I do have a close group of friends, closer than I’ve ever been to people other than my family. However, this semester, two of them are very busy with a sorority, one is busy with a new girlfriend and being part of the student gov’t and another is in his room a lot playing video games. Another friend has been getting into doing drugs (other than marijuana), so I haven’t been exactly hanging out with him as much. I sometimes feel alone and I’m not sure if it’s because of me or because of them. I still like them all a lot, they’re almost like family to me.</p>

<p>I’ve tried to ask the one friend that is in his room a lot, and he doesn’t go out to eat a good amount of the time. He also doesn’t think to ask people to go places when he goes, which is sort of annoying since he goes and then tells me about it later. I invite him to things but he doesn’t return the favor. We are close though when I do see him. I use to see him a lot more last semester but this semester, at least thus far, it’s been different.</p>

<p>I feel that I am alone a lot and I’m feeling depressed. I have felt like this before, and the last time was when I was a junior in high school, and a bit in senior year. I don’t go out usually because I’ve had some bad experiences when I’ve gone out during the first semester (I went to two parties, and both were busted by cops and people were arrested so that has also scared me off a bit) but not at all so far this semester. I have a job on Saturday nights which sucks, but Friday’s aren’t much better since most of my friends are busy then with their different obligations and the one that is in his room is playing video games or whatnot, which kind of gets old too.</p>

<p>My living situation has been crazy. I live in an all Freshman building at a state school in NY. There has been so many crazy things that have happened that I am pretty much burned out. It is loud, without fail, every Friday and Saturday night, which I do not mind too much. However, it is also loud other nights as well and even when the RA on duty comes up, it still isn’t quiet. I’m talking midnight, 1am, and 2am on week nights. My floor’s bathroom gets destroyed every weekend by idiots who throw up on the toilets (not in), on the floors, in the sinks, and in the showers. Beer cans are scattered everywhere in there too along with other not-so-great surprises. This has been addressed by the RA on my floor but we’ll see if it does anything... My floor has the lowest GPA in the entire college (there are approximately 6k students) out of all of the resident hall floors, even though our floor has 5 people (including me) on the deans list.</p>

<p>It’s just been crazy and I need an outsider’s opinion in order for me to look at this in an unbiased way. I feel that all of this stuff going on here is rationalized and is therefore normal, which is what I’m starting to go by now. However, I’m pretty sure it isn’t because it isn’t pleasant.</p>

<p>I’m a very tolerant person, but this is getting out of hand. </p>

<p>Suggestions on any of this?</p>

<p>Get out of the dorm.</p>

<p>the worlds a beautiful place. i used to never understand that and i felt the way you felt about feeling alienated, so you have my compassion my dude but…</p>

<p>-sry but- lawl bad move on the best friend thing been there(found it hard to return to normal after that). </p>

<p>anyways…
Time… waits for no one, your gna fall behind in the race, if you dwell on these “hurdles”.</p>

<p>To me… all life means is… keep the good stuff rolling in and preventing the Bu^#Sh%t (or… Pok Guy cuz of the hurdles).</p>

<p>friends come and go, how many “true friends” does one meet in life… if you consider the people your true friends, speak your mind, i would not say your efforts were wasted putting it here, but would be better redirected towards your friends. </p>

<p>and… ■■■■ that dorm dude… nothing else to it.</p>

<p>Ditto. Get out of that dorm, it sounds awful.
Focus on your GPA, not your friends with other plans.
Join clubs or start hanging out with other kids. Make new connections in classes.
Just cause your first semester group is branching out doesn’t mean you have to get all emo about it. Branch out as well. Network, meet new people. Maybe don’t get “close” with everybody but at least folks to satisfy your social needs.</p>