<p>This part especially I think is so true of my son:</p>
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<p>except that his school counselor has been very helpful. But otherwise, yeah, I think that is him. Throw in a whole lot of disorganization and procrastination, and yes, probably some fear of going away that causes him to alternate between wanting to go the the closest college and wanting to get as far away from his parents as possible.</p>
<p>David, I think college will be better for you than high school has been. It’s great that you’re trying to understand what makes you tick. Good luck to you!</p>
<p>yabeyabe2, I have done far more work than my D. I am picking out schools and telling her to go to their web sites and look around, and request information if she likes them. That’s about all she is doing. I’m picking out the schools to visit, planning the trips, etc. She does seem to be taking the visits seriously, though. Right now she is busy with SAT prep (ends tomorrow, thankfully) and I’m pleased that she seems to be focusing on that, at least. She has given me input into the size, possible majors, etc. But really, I’m doing all the research. So it isn’t only boys.</p>
<p>My D is very interested in the visits and has strong opinions on what she likes and doesn’t like. She is not interested in paring down the hundreds of colleges out there to a manageable list. I made a list of 20 or so that are acceptable to us, then she looked at the websites and picked a dozen or so that she likes. As we were visiting one school, she looked at me and said , “You’re really good at picking out schools for me!” Luckily she was not being sarcastic!</p>
<p>Simkin: must have missed the Hofstra acceptance (and the fact that it isn’t? Your son’s first choice anymore?)…well congratulations anyway! And good luck while you are waiting…</p>
<p>Count me as another mom who has done more than her share of the college search process. From what I can tell… although it may appear that my son is uninterested, knowing him as I do, I believe it more a case of his being ambivalent. </p>
<p>On the one hand, he is excited about going away, meeting new people, learning new things, etc. At the same time, however, he is actually *afraid<a href=“though%20he%20has%20not%20said%20this”>/i</a> of all these very same things.</p>
<p>Thanks, yes, I was very surprised, since they deferred him pending mid-year grades, and his mid-year grades were horrible. After I saw the mid-year grades, I told the GC not to bother sending them to UVM (which also deferred him) and withdrew his UVM application, thinking to spare him the rejection letter, and now I could kick myself, since Hofstra took him with those rotten grades. Oh well. Hofstra would be the first choice if it wasn’t so close to home. As we were driving away from RWU, he was saying, “Why can’t Hofstra be here?” He loves Hofstra but wants to leave Long Island. It’s a dilemma.</p>
<p>giat - I’m the research assistant at our house, both for my older S and my '12 DD. And I’ve probably done more for my D then I did for my son! But I did get input in what she wanted, narrowed down the list and presented it to her. When asked by well-meaning folks what made her decide on these far-away schools they’ve never heard of she recites “smaller university with small class sizes, good business school, and my Mom found it”!!</p>
<p>For D15 I imagine that will be my entire role. For S12 it’s been that plus keeper of deadlines, badgerer of app finishing, scheduler of and driver to visits, suggester of additions to list…I could go on :)</p>
<p>You guys are great! I’m really enjoying reading your responses…helps to know that maybe what I’m beginning to deal with and my sons response to everything, isn’t so abnormal at all! I truly appreciate all the advice you’re giving me…I’m taking notes and re-thinking our spring break college visit list! :)</p>
<p>S got a strange letter today from SUNY Oswego saying that he was “incorrectly denied admission” and an official acceptance letter will follow. The strangest thing is that he never fully submitted the application . . . I think all they got was the part with self-reported grades and SAT scores, but no supplement, essay or LORs. I was surprised when he got the initial rejection letter because his application wasn’t complete. And now more surprised that they’ve changed their minds. Very odd. However, I don’t think this changes anything.</p>
<p>I’ve been making myself more familiar with the college that’s given S such a great FA package, while we wait to see what happens with the reachier schools we haven’t heard from. It helps pass the time and makes me feel better.</p>
<p>S took up pole vaulting this week ,for the track team. This should be interesting…</p>
<p>Big congrats!! Don’t you just love those big envelopes all squished up in the mailbox?? </p>
<p>We just got one from Goucher today, too! We haven’t visited. Have you? The only two realistic choices (because of merit) that S has at the moment is Goucher and Wooster. Thoughts on which is a better fit for a creative intellectual who wants a vibrant music scene?</p>
<p>The envelope has not yet been opened (so, not sure if it is at all realistic for us, lol.) We did visit a few weeks ago. We liked them both. Goucher has a very artsy vibe, IMO. I will answer any questions if you want. My S did an overnight at Goucher, but we only toured Wooster quickly (and on our own.) They have somewhat different vibes, but then again, it was just a quick visit to each. I’d be happy to see my S at either, though we’re still waiting on Wooster.</p>
<p>I hate how hard it is to get into a university (sorry im a student not a parent) I had to take the community college path because of horriable grades in high school. in college I took such a big load of classes my gpa suffered. My path for next year is unclear as I will already have my AA</p>
<p>I loved Wooster, it’s the only school I visited with S that made me want to go back to college myself :)</p>
<p>Not so sure about a vibrant music scene, but they did allow my S to audition on bass guitar, and they even had an amp. So it’s not ALL classical.</p>
<p>Supposed to go to McDaniel Accepted Students day this weekend but S is flat-out refusing. Does not want a small college, will not go to a small college, blah blah blah. I just canceled our hotel reservation. It’s disappointing but not unexpected.</p>