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<p>"In the beginning it seemed as though Caltech had alot of merit available for top ranked hs students. We got this impression from hs counselors (who were all but sure a scholarship would be offered), Caltech alum and Caltech staff."</p>
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<p>Colorado - I certainly understand your disappointment, and your feeling, perhaps, of being mislead. But this sounds like a simple misunderstanding. What you were told about Caltech is true compared to other schools, but not true in the absolute sense you have been viewing it. "Top" means top 5-10% or so at every school which offers merit aid, which means that the vast majority of students are not going to get any. Here's an analogy - If your chance of winning the lottery in state X is twice (or ten times) the chance of winning the lottery in state Y, that sounds pretty good. And state X could honestly advertise that. But it doesn't change the fact that your chance of winning the lottery in either place is pretty darn small.</p>
<p>Did Caltech staff give you any reason to expect an offer for your son specifically? I'm going to guess that they didn't, because they certainly did not do that for my son in spite of the fact that we asked about Axline specifically during a private meeting with someone in admissions, and my son has a lot of national and international awards/honors of the type previous Axline scholars have had. They didn't even give us an encouraging word or surrepticious wink about admissions, although it was pretty clear that he had plenty of qualifications to get admitted (and in fact, was admitted later).</p>
<p>I'm guessing that your counselor, and an alum or two, did give you hope for your son specifically. Great kids who stand out in their communities are routinely told by their counselors, teachers, neighbors etc. that they are going to be able to go to any college they want, or that top schools will be competing to pay their way. Or they meet an enthusiastic interviewer, alum, or coach who tells them that they would be perfect for Harvard, or Yale, or whatever. I hear this sort of stuff about my son all of the time. The problem is, the well-meaning adults who tell kids stuff like that don't know anything. They never see how jaw-dropping the entire applicant pool is for the top few schools. Valedictorians, perfect SAT scores, and perfect grades are <em>normal</em> in that setting. Some of the kids who hear this stuff (and their parents) get so starry-eyed that they do not look below the super-elite schools which are a crap-shoot for anyone. They end up with a handful of Ivy rejections and no college to go to, in spite of the fact that there are many schools right below the top that would be thrilled to have them. It sounds like you have fallen into the same mental trap, but in terms of merit aid rather than admission (your son has actually been admitted to Caltech, right?).</p>
<p>From your post count, you are new to CC. Read the other forums. Get a sense of how many spectacular kids there are out there, and how other families have thought about the financial issues you are thinking about now. This is a great community. You may get some helpful ideas or suggestions. If nothing else, you will get great commiseration from the other parents.</p>