<p>Three years ago, I was very active on this thread:
<a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/990317-anyone-else-have-child-who-having-hard-time-making-transition.html?highlight=freshman+abasket%5B/url%5D">http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/990317-anyone-else-have-child-who-having-hard-time-making-transition.html?highlight=freshman+abasket</a></p>
<p>My S who had been hugely successful in high school socially, academically and athletically was having a horrible college experience. His unhappiness emotionally tore me apart! He was not connecting with the school, was not connecting with friends, was not connecting academically (he was trying hard and did well except for one class struggle) but the classes didn't seem to be engaging/exciting him. </p>
<p>This morning he finished his last exam at the school and is packing up to come home. He was accepted to complete his student teaching out of state in a special program through Chicago Public Schools next semester. One of the best texts ever was received from him this morning: " Last exam completed! I am so excited for Chicago but SO SAD to leave! I can't believe I am leaving this place for good!" Enter Mom tears.... :)</p>
<p>Some of you may be holding your breath right now waiting for a college freshman who has had a hard transition to come home. I remember and totally feel the pain and anxiety of wondering if the wrong college decision was made. The feeling of having a child who wanted so badly to be happy and have a good experience, but just isn't. I reach out and hug you! </p>
<p>I will always question if his school was perfectly right. If we should have looked more, should have considered a transfer, should of/could of/ would of...! But what I am most proud of is my S. For forging ahead, for figuring things out. For asking for help and guidance. For receiving support from his GF three hours away. For standing up for himself and remaining the person he was/is and not succumbing to the peer pressures sometimes present at college. </p>
<p>For him, high school was a "10" - college , not so much! My guess is he isn't done with education yet. I think he will find himself in the classroom again - not only as the teacher he plans to be, but as a student again at some point. </p>
<p>It's a weird feeling today. Looking back to three years ago and knowing how unhappy he was. Coming home for that first Christmas break was the turning point for him - he somehow was able to regroup and go back to school with a new outlook and intentions. </p>
<p>I know someone out in CC land is in this same place this holiday season - with a freshman arriving on the front step frazzled, unsure, maybe somewhat unhappy - but SURVIVED. My best wishes to you - enjoy the holiday break and may better times be ahead. :)</p>