<p>Ok so let me just say, I was taking all college classes my Jr and Sr year in high school, thus by the time i graduated, i Had earned enough credits and received 3A.A. degrees. (graduated June 2009) BUT somehow i still feel like a failure for a number of reasons.</p>
<h1>1. I should have gone to college right after HS and with the credits i had i should have been on track to get my BS in the Spring of 2011, at the age of 20 and 2 yrs after HS ,a couple months ago, YET i didnt apply to state colleges ontime because i was too busy with work so i ended up staying another year at the local community college, and continued to work 30-35hrs weekly, i lost focus on my school work and basically that entire year at the CC i would just drop classes right away, so i only took like 5-6 classes.</h1>
<p>I transferred to a CSU, bakersfield to be exact for their business program. but during the year i was at the cc my gpa suffered, it went down to a 2.5 from a 3.5
and now i cant raise it even if i get all A's
SO even though im on track to get my bachelors at the age of 21 and 3yrs after leaving highschool, i still feel like a MAJOR FAILURE. </p>
<h1>2. I see other friends/people i knowmy age who already have homes and thats basically my life goal, to buy a house. yet many of those people dropped out of highschool and work at warehouses.</h1>
<p>You are indeed a failure IF you feel like a failure
Wake up, realize how much luckier you are than other people, especially starving kids in Africa, and [watch</a> this](<a href=“Stop Whining - YouTube”>Stop Whining - YouTube)</p>
<p>Yea somethinhg like that, I know that working 25_30hrs a week while in HS on top of taking ALL college classes at the local Cc is something to be commendable,yet I guess since I spent an extra year at CC after HS which set me back a year,I feel like I’ve failed?</p>
<p>It would be foolish for you to buy a house at a young age.</p>
<p>You need to be able to just pick up and leave if you get a job offer in another city, and should not be tied down by a house.</p>
<p>You shouldn’t buy a house until you are married, and you are 100% certain you will be living in that town the rest of your life (example–you have been a dentist in the same community for 14 years, and have built up a clientele)</p>
<p>As for being a failure, once you graduate, you can go to graduate school, and have a second chance. Assuming you do well on your GRE, GMAT, MCAT, LSAT, etc., you can still get into a decent graduate school. And then, basically your previous college record won’t matter much anymore. You will not be a C+ Bakersfield student any longer. You will be a brand new UC Santa Barbara graduate student.</p>
<p>My dad did pretty terribly in high school. The counselor couldn’t believe he got into college (Appalachian). He was a C-D student in basic classes. He did okay-ish in college, but not that great. He then went on to Graduate School and got his Master’s in Political Science. He had a 4.0 in that. That allowed him to get into Law School where he did pretty well.</p>
<p>If you’re not happy with your GPA as an undergrad, then just try for Grad School.</p>
<p>you might try doing small things that make you feel competent, like cleaning your room a lot or sleeping early or losing weight. or finding someone who really needs help and helping him. that might help you feel better about yourself, at least in the moment.</p>
<p>I think that sometimes we (I am including myself) push students in HS so hard, they just get burned out. I saw a little of that with my son, and was lucky enough to know I needed to help him back off some, and I needed to let him prioritize. He still puts pressure on himself, so I don’t need to do more of it. But I do try to help him with organization, as well as motivation. And I try to help him see when he has bitten off more than he can chew. </p>
<p>I told you all of that because I was worried that he was headed for the situation that you are currently in. </p>
<p>So, should you feel like a failure. Nope. Some people do not get their bachelors until much, much later in life. You are fine there. Just because you do not own a home does not make you a failure either. And if you are going to college just to own a home,that is part of your loss of motivation. </p>
<p>Find something you like, or at least can see yourself doing for an extended period of time, and study that. Look for a job in that. Take time away from school for a little bit, and actually enjoy life some. The ones that die with the most or highest degrees do not win a prize. And everything you are missing out on is not worth it.</p>
<p>3 semesters may be a little much. It gets harder to go back the longer you wait. Life gets in the way, you may enjoy working 40+ and having that income and freedom. A semester or two might help get you back on track. But it depends what you do with your time.</p>
<p>I agree that you shouldn’t worry about buying a house at this age. You never know where your job will end up. I even find it odd that younger single people buy a house. I don’t think you need to be married, but certainly far enough along in your life to know that’s where you want to live at least for several years. I don’t agree that you have to live in a house you buy forever. People move all the time.</p>
