<p>If you’re not really into frat parties, don’t go to them. If you’re not into frats, don’t join them. If you are, it shouldn’t take a lot of deliberating or effort to join one. You have choices, and you should be making ones that are true to your personality. </p>
<p>I think Stanford is going to be different than high school in that there are so many groups represented that everyone’s going to find their niche. It’s cliche, but out of the thousands of people who attend Stanford, don’t you think that you’ll find a lot of people who are just like you? And yes, there will be parties, and maybe if you go to enough of them and make yourself more conspicuous or cool or popular, you’ll have changed enough from your high school self. But if you just want close relationships with others, being cool doesn’t necessarily help.</p>