<p>Is there anybody out there who is going through the same thing as I am?? I am a junior in high school. I am very competitive, always trying to get the highest grades in the class. My freshman and sophomore year i was the best. See, i have a friend i met at the start of high school. seriously, she was really slow when i first met her. she used to call me everyday and ask me how to do the homework and to ask me for advice and stuff. It got better sophomore year. but this year, it seems as if she is getting the lead. no matter how hard i try, i can't quite seem to "beat" her. even in cross country, she is running every single day so that she can beat me in the races next year (and we're on the same team!) i don't know what is going on, but i am feeling so sad and confused. and the scary thing is, she lies about her "life" - she says she goes out and stuff, but i know she doesn't - she is always at home doing homework, which is why on Monday she comes to school with all of her homework for the week finished. somebody tell me if i am just taking this too seriously. lately, i have been quite lazy, not doing my homework, kinda giving up in school. who would think that one slow girl can degrade the life of a pretty intelligent one.</p>
<p>I think you need to stop being so competitive. It's obviously causing a detrimental effect in your mental health. Take a deep breath and relax - try to stop worrying about these little things and try to see the big picture.</p>
<p>^I agree. competitive nature when it goes as far as to do everything it takes to win... is not a good idea, and will not win you many friends</p>
<p>however, this junioritis you are suffering... i feel it myself too, i would like someoen to answer that part of the question</p>
<p>fruita, i want to tell you something. WHAT YOU DESCRIBED IN YOUR POST IS EXACTLY WHAT I WENT THROUGH FIRST TERM THIS YEAR.</p>
<p>During my freshman year (last year), i was at rank 1 in my class, and it was amazing. however, i decided to skip a year of high school, so i'm right now supposed to be a soph, but am really a junior taking all gr 11 courses. and since i've moved up a grade, i've also moved into competition with a new group of people, who all happen to be really smart. THere's this one girl who is just GENIUS, and throughout first term this year, i was COMPLETELY in depression because i soooo badly wanted to do better than her. Well, it started to take a toll on my grades, i was so caught up worrying about who was going to "win" that i paid less attention to actually working. And the results....i came Rank 2 first term, and this girl i wanted to beat came 1st that term. That's when i realized that worrying was getting me nowhere. I quit thinking about it, and am just working my a** off this term. and what do you know....i'm rank 1 again, as of right now :) :) . </p>
<p>.....Sooooo...getting back to the point, i think you should forget about your friend/competitor concerns, just shut them out of your mind. People often say it is bad to be competitive, and i disagree. It is great to be competitive, but don't let it push the limits. thinking so much about it will only hurt you. All you should do is try your best, and you'll definitely achieve what you want. Like my uncle often says : "Do your best, screw the rest." </p>
<p>and everyone, yeah i've been feeling the junioritis coming on too....someone tell us the cure!!!!!!!! :D</p>
<p>depressed? or just jealous?</p>
<p>just chill out. like anita's uncle says, "do your best, screw the rest."
you need not be that competitive.</p>
<p>competitive people are annoying</p>
<p>You don't have depression. You are just mad that she is becoming better than you at some things, and you are too lazy to make the effort to counter her rise.</p>
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she lies about her "life" - she says she goes out and stuff, but i know she doesn't - she is always at home doing homework, which is why on Monday she comes to school with all of her homework for the week finished
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<p>A closet studier. Heh.</p>
<p>Yes, competition supposedly drives people to do better, but I'd advise against it. At my high school, the people who were obsessed with rank (trying to name the top ten if you can believe it) were "bottom feeders," if you will.</p>
<p>"Do your best, screw the rest." <-- Heh, that's a great quote!</p>
<p>mild gambling helps. </p>
<p>did to me the begining of my senior year (ya, the insight that the most monumentally important time in my life was at hand and that those few months will lay down the foundation for my future came kinda late for me, :/ ). nothing relieves more stress than emitting a blood curling cry (while at the same time jumping from your seat flicking your cards into the opposite wall) meaning that you beat out your buddy's flush with a full house, winning the pot and becoming the envy of all. yes, that was satisfying. </p>
<p>also be prepared to lose some money, but it's well worth it, and a lot cheaper than hiring a shrink or buying some pills</p>
<p>BEST of luck on your endeavors</p>
<p>is "straight house" a typo or is that just some obscure poker epitome that i have never reached</p>
<p>haha my b. ya that would be weird</p>
<p>i want to thank all of you for your input. i got two great quotes: "You are just mad that she is becoming better than you at some things, and you are too lazy to make the effort to counter her rise." (thank you ohnoes) and "Do your best, screw the rest." (thanks Anita). I actually wrote them down on a post-it note, and it is on my wall right in front of my desk so that whenever i look up, i see it. i would like to note that this weekend, i am determined to restart my "Life," so to say; from now on, I will try my hardest to beat her, and i will consider it a fun game. tough luck for her...she's up for some comp.</p>
<p>go for it fruita! :D :D :D</p>
<p>Yes, just try your best! </p>
<p>I used to be like you - and I was actually depressed and unhappy with my life despite my good ECs and grades. I kept thinking I was the best - HA. </p>
<p>"but this year, it seems as if she is getting the lead. no matter how hard i try, i can't quite seem to 'beat' her. " </p>
<p>Don't burn yourself out kid. Have your own goals. There is always someone better out there. If it still matters to be the best for you in the future, at least you know with enough effort, some 'obstacles' can be overcome (in reference to your 'friend''s situation).</p>
<p>gamble with underclassmen, i hear it does wonders for your wallet ;)</p>
<p>and if you ever need a shoulder to lean on, ... well, walls are just as sturdy</p>
<p>jk</p>
<p>talk your parents, or just pm one of us ccers.</p>
<p>so does prostitution</p>
<p>not that i'm endorsing that</p>
<p>i dont know where i'm going with this</p>
<p>i say that's a pretty stressful occupation. working the street corners while constantly cautious of undercover cops or other hos who have 'marked' that junction, yeah that's tough. plus being out at night in the cold... sucks (pun? anyone get it? its terrible right?)</p>
<p>don't forget the std's.</p>
<p>Yeah, I would be depressed too if I had STDs...</p>
<p>Hey, I'm kind of going throught the same process, though I"m competing with this asian dude, he thinks he's all smart, he thinks he knows everything, he freakin annoying, also...He thinks he's cool. What a f*g. Though I was so worried about this year, you know what? He beat me.</p>