<p>The OP sounds every bit as petty/shallow as the friend in question.</p>
<p>@necrophiliac haha, i’m 100% sure she’d fit right in. </p>
<p>@legendofmax, you are so right that I think of it! She is horrible at group work everything she does she does on her own. thank you for bringing that to light =]</p>
<p>Thank you everyone for your opinions! Truth be told, I am bitter and I think i have some right to be. But I will try to move on. I did move on after the actual incident, but now knowing that she got into exactly where she wanted, the hard feelings start to come back. It just seems so hard for me to do so because I actually work for what I get (sometimes too hard) and i don’t seem to be as smart with knowing what gets payoff.</p>
<p>i think you need to consider your own moral infraction of even considering to do this before your friend’s</p>
<p>@liberationn15, you know, I am under the impression that I have a conscience. I see nothing wrong with wanting to correct falsehoods. And I really don’t appreciate being snubbed when I am asking for advice because I am truly conflicted and am presenting my honest self. If I come off as bitter, or conniving, or shallow, I’d like you to at least understand where I am coming from. I’d at least like to see myself as a cut above my “friend” in that I have legitimate, hurtful reasons for what I think. She just does it for selfishness.</p>
<p>how is telling the truth a moral infraction? I’m confused.</p>
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<p>You are not “correcting falsehoods” out of some existential sense of academic integrity. You are using it as a revenge mechanism. Being this blood-thirsty (metaphorically) is not healthy – childish, to say the least.</p>
<p>@liberationn15 * slurp * yummy! Schadenfreude ftw! lol, I’ll work on my self-esteem.</p>
<p>by being a horrible person</p>
<p>I’m not being a horrible person. That I pretty firmly believe in. That’s just your opinion and it happens to differ from mine.</p>
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Mimble:
In your opening post, suppose you added a direct question at the end that asked: “Am I being a horrible person?”. Based on the input you’ve received so far, what do you think the answers would look like?</p>
<p>As you keep trying to defend your position to “continue fighting for revenge”, it begs the question if you and your friend are “equals” in this cat fight.</p>
<p>Mimble, you are frustrated and angry. I don’t blame you. It is difficult to accept that people get rewarded for less then honorable behavior. Yes, you can let Penn know a scholarship was revoked, but you then need the people or organization that awarded the scholarship to back you up. You are a HS senior, Penn may not take just your word for it. Perhaps your friend’s family will decide to take legal action against you for what they percieve to be harrassment or libel. The “crime” was dealt with when the scholarship was rescinded. At what point is the punishment adequate? You are hurting yourself far more now. Just cut this person out of your life and out of your emotional energy. I know that is easier said then done. I am just afraid you will do more damage to yourself then your ex-friend.</p>
<p>If you tell the colleges that she lied, they are definitiely going to judge you as a tattle taler, then subsequently you will be rejected at all your colleges when they find out. DO NOT TELL. The disadvantages of tattling far outweigh the advantages (NONE). You gain nothing.</p>
<p>How did you find out that she lied. I find it hard to believe that a dishonest person like her would admit to her lie.</p>
<p>I cannot divine your motivation, but I believe you that this friend did such a thing. Ultimately, she will be outed for the integrity-less person she is, really–not to mention the bad karma accrued, in which I am a great believer–maybe, not for this particular infraction, but, as she has been “rewarded” for her behavior, there is incentive for her to do something like this again. And she will be caught. “They” always get caught–cheating on an exam, plagiarizing an essay, stealing, making fallacious claims on an application. Heck, she’s been caught–she had her scholarship revoked (I think you said).</p>
<p>Sadly, too, there is such a significant number of applicants and (already college students) who have done disingenuous things to achieve some goal (Stanford’s oft-violated honor code comes to mind, and college applicants who have successfully lied about possessing some obscure and sought-after minority status when they are not said minority), and, thus, many students are potentially deserving of having their acceptances revoked or suspension/expulsion. Not saying that the lack of detection merits no consequence, mind you. </p>
<p>And I think it a sad (but I have hear (redundantly) true) commentary that Wharton has a significant number of like-minded types who would do anything to get ahead, sell their mothers’ kidney for advancement, for example.</p>
<p>Go forward with your life–know that you are the better person, and, yes to whoever posted about the possibility of legal retribution from your friend’s family, being sued for vendettaism or slander/libel. It could be an issue.</p>
<p>You have, seemingly, have a conscience–you start college and life way ahead of your friend, already, then. Let that comfort and guide you.</p>
<p>And for whatever it’s worth, I don’t think you’re being a horrible person. Your post seemed to push a lot of buttons, here–maybe, some other posters are guilty of something historically dishonest, and this hit close to home??</p>
<p>I think that telling Penn directly would be a bad decision… Although I would probably have the same feelings, telling on her just makes you look jealous and desperate. If you want, you can talk to your guidance/college counselor about it and she/he can deal with it further if needed.</p>
<p>Great advice.</p>
<p>ok this is reeely pathetic… you cant get into penn on cheating your whole way through… im sure she worked hard and ya she fudged that part of her app up… you really gotta stop crying and get over it… ive seen kids cheat on their sat, ap, and get into great schools… i really dont care about them… just get over it and stop this thread… im laughing because if your really upset over this… haha lifes just gonna get you so ****ed</p>
<p>SWHarborFan: Great Advice.</p>
<p>Even if it’s my enemy, I wouldn’t. You don’t do sth bad just because bad is done upon you. Don’t make yourself regret; forgive her and move on. It sounds that you are a very capable individual,thus your future is going to be much more glorious than a high school award. Be a magnanimous person, laugh at it and then move on.</p>
<p>Look, I think everyone here understands your frustration with this girl. However, reporting her to Upenn would just be bad. The girl sounds ambitious and very hardworking. So, if you did really report her to UPenn she could lose not only her acceptance there but the opportunity to attend any college this upcoming year. Lying was wrong but I dont believe its your place to condemn her to that kind of situation. Heck, if you were applying to UPenn then I could kinda of see your argument a little more. However, ratting her out really just makes you look more petty: be the bigger person.</p>