Fair enough. Both of those explanations make sense although I still think there is a hint of wanting to “have your cake and eat it too” in some donut hole posts.
Anyway, I am pretty sure that you get what I’m saying. I’m not trying to claim that the choices are easy. From my point of view, unless you are at risk of becoming homeless, I think it is fine to decide to spend your money on tuition instead of housing. I know of a few families that downsized their only home to pay tuition. I know even more who sold a second home to pay tuition. Good for them if they believe the pricey education is worth it. I also think it is fine to refuse to pay for an expensive college in order to have enough money for an expensive lifestyle. But you are correct in noticing that I am pushing back against the notion that something unfair is being done to donut hole families rather than difficult choices that they are making. You can dislike the available choices without claiming victimization. The great thing is when someone is fortunate enough to have a real choice. And one of the many reasons why I want my kids to go to college is because I think education buys the chance to make your own choices rather than have choices made for you.
Getting back to the Chetty study, I wish there was a way to measure different outcomes. I know alumni salaries are very important to most students in choosing a college. It makes sense to me. However, personally, I am not that interested in whether education from a particular ivy+ college leads to multimillion dollar incomes for most of its graduates. I am somewhat more interested in if an ivy+ college prepares its students well for graduate program. Mostly, I am interested in whether my kids’ educations will lead to them having meaningful choices in their adult lives and their ability to pursue activities that they love while still being self-sufficient.