<p>I thought that I would share a great explanation fo recs that I found on another wonderful site, especially since some of our DD will be staring recruitment at Auburn on Sunday:</p>
<p>“Basically her perception was that for those groups for which she had obtained a rec letter, she was matched with a hostess who “miraculously” had something in common with her - maybe it was her sport, maybe it was the same state, etc. But with the groups which she had not obtained a rec letter for, she seemed to be paired with a hostess who had been picked at random…and as a result there was no common interest. Needless to say those parties didn’t go as well. So the rec letters cut both ways - 1) the sororites won’t know about you, and you’re more likely to get lost in the shuffle and cut; and 2) since they’re not as prepared for you, you might not feel a connection and won’t like them quite as much and are more likely to cut them.”</p>
<p>So when thinking about recs it is a way to find a person in the chapter that might help make a better connection. Think about how impressed we often are when our kids are paired with tour guides/overnight guests that share their interests, geography. It is about attempting to make a connection.</p>