<p>Hello, elders! I have sort of a quandary that I am hesitant to discuss with my own parents (largely because they would be angry with me for undermining their capabilities, but also because it is hard for me to talk to them in general) and the thought struck me that hm! Perhaps it would be a good idea, given the inability to evaluate matters with my own parents, to try and work out them with mostly-anonymous parents of other students my age! Are you willing to help me?</p>
<p>...good! Glad to see that you're still reading.</p>
<p>Okay, so here is the scoop: I am a rising senior. Woo! I am also poor. [Retract "woo."] Not just poor; "dirt poor" is a better term. (We are currently borrwing WiFi from the neighbours and my dad is off at the local food pantry, if that gives you any indication.) But I want to go to college more than anything, being an independent sort of soul who values intelligence and learning above all else. To live at a university allows me to finally be free from the chokehold of living at home and live life by my own terms. Moreover, my town is not even 1,500 people, and with no opportunities for jobs, volunteering, things to do, or new friends, the atmosphere here is positively stifling. You might be able to guess just how furiously I am grasping at the concept of finally being able to leave within a year's time.</p>
<p>Here comes the problem. When I go to university, I will have to foot the bills all on my own, because my parents are unemployed/underemployed and spent the entirety of my college savings account -- savings bonds, cash, and birthday money alike -- sometime around 2003. We have been faced with many financial crises such as being evicted and having to move, my mother having cancer and no health insurance, my parents going to college late in life, &c. With my inability to pay for school lunches, college application fees, and most importantly a new flute for music school auditioning, the realization is ever-dawning on me with increasing intensity that I am going to be more broke than your typical college student. My parents will not be able to afford to send me a stipend every few months, and because of this, I will likely have to work two jobs on top of classes, clubs, intramural sports, and trying to be somewhat social and generally the person I failed to become in high school.</p>
<p>Would it be a good idea to take a year off after graduation to work my butt off and maybe earn a few thousand dollars, and that new flute, to take with me the next fall?</p>
<p>Given the fact that my mental sanity has gone out the window, the idea of facing another year in this little farm town is enough to suffocate the life right out of me, I am not kidding you. Every town around here is just the same. And I am not, NOT willing to go to a community college, because that is not the college experience that I have always dreamed of, and as an American woman, I try to reach my dreams and never, ever give up. But without money, I will be more than broke; I will probably end up using a credit card and being a few thousand dollars in debt by the end of freshman year, not even counting college bills which will be yet to come.</p>
<p>If I were your daughter, what sort of advice would you give me in this situation? Should I gut it out and stay here for another heart-wrenching year in order to maybe earn enough money to survive at least for my first year of college? Should I go off to college and work two jobs, sleep about an hour a night, and generally stretch myself too thin? Should I go off to college and (ew) depend on the government/college aid department to keep me alive?</p>
<p>Any help is muchly appreciated.</p>