<p>I've been really stressed out these couple of days by school, applications, and mostly, the situation I'm in...and I would appreciate any advice or whatever you have that could just get me out of this because I can't do anything; I can't do my homework, I can't allow myself to eat anything, I can't go to sleep...I just don't know what to do and this may sound like a hopeless whiny vent, but I am just so I don't know, I don't even have a word for it. Maybe you can find a word to describe my feelings (if you decide to read past here)</p>
<p>Basically, since September, I have become great friends with a guy who had a girlfriend, and we've been flirting for months. We went out on "dates" (he paid for all our meals, etc.) while he was with his gf and we've had conversations that go beyond what friends would talk about. Two weeks ago I addressed him about exactly what our relationship was and he said how he wanted to be more than friends, but didn't want to jeopordize our friendship or break his gf's heart. We are really good friends, except our friendship is full of flirtation, but I do consider him to be one of my closest friends.</p>
<p>Last week, some of the senior class went to DC including him and my best friend. I didn't go. All throughout the trip, he was texting me and saying really suggestive things and then when they returned, he became really aloof and wasn't really interested in talking to me.</p>
<p>It turns out that he fell for my best friend while in DC. That was big shocker number one. Secondly, he broke up with his gf BEFORE the trip and didn't tell me. He actually broke up with her the night that he took me out downtown to a really nice restaurant.</p>
<p>And my friend didn't have any idea that he liked her...until I told her. And he called her and wanted to be more than friends with her. Normally, I would expect my best friend to say no straightaway; we know each other so well and I would have never thought that she would even consider being with him. Now when I ask her about what she plans on doing, I just get a "I don't know..." and I'm hurt because when I first told he about it (before he called her), she said that she realyl didn't like him as a person.</p>
<p>And that's not the biggest thing I've been stressing over. After a long conversation with him, I found out that I inspired, so to speak, him to break up with his gf since he discovered that there were a lot more "interesting girls out there" but now, there's just something about me that doesn't "click" with him. Here's the biggest problem: he says that he values our friendship over going out with my best friend (well, not so best at the moment)</p>
<p>Basically, if I am uncomfortable with their relationship, he's not going to do anything with her even though he wants to. That puts a lot of pressure on me. I AM uncomfortable with it because he expects our flirty friendship to stay the same and wants to continue hanging out with me, with or without my friend. If I pretend to be ok with it, then I think jealousy will come up between my friend and me and I will end up losing both of their friendships. If I say that I'm not ok with it, then I feel like they will both be upset with me, even though he says he values my friendship more.</p>
<p>I have totally lost any romantic intentions toward him. I feel like I would not be able to trust him and that he needs a break from girls, since he was with his gf for a year.</p>
<p>I really don't know what to do. I feel like I will always be stuck, and I will lose both friends no matter what I do.</p>
<p>And I'm really sorry for this long post. If you've read to here, then you deserve some sort of patience award for reading about someone you don't even know.</p>