A Sympathetic crowd please... Parent rant

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>My mother really got on my nerves just now, and I'm sure everyone has these experiences.</p>

<p>Feel free to leave your story or Rant so I can involve everyone else and no make this an ego 'blah blah blah' thing... Here is the story.</p>

<p>So I am Chinese and Mexican and many of you know. My mother is Mexican born American (but raised in Mexico, so really Mexican...on a farm in relative poverty). My father is Chinese American born to native Chinese. He was born in Michigan and his parents decided to teach him English as his first language. As a result he is practically a redneck with yellow skin and chinky eyes(no offense...I am part asian as well)... literally... you do NOT know.
So I believe it is important to maintain my cultural root (IE: understand the culture and language of your ancestry).
So I already know Spanish, and I've been to Mexico so many dating back to when I was in diapers I cannot remember how many times I've been there(and I'm fixing to go again in a couple of days...woo hoo). Been I did not know Chinese and knew minimal about the Chinese culture (tribute to my 99% white washed father)...what I did learn is from Mainly involuntary action I learn from my father, my grandparents, ONE trip to china (1 to Japan, although that doesn't help... and 2 to the Philippines to see my Chinese relative... really making 3 'china' trips because they are all old fashion Chinese individuals... very superstitious), and CHINESE school.
So I was content... and I was told my dad about a New Chinese school wanted to attend (as it offers SAT prep courses, and I can gain CS hours going to it)...he was ok with it...
I tell my mom because "I never tell her anything" (which isn't true, sometimes i don't tell her but she is right there in front of me when I say it... and sometimes I do... and she doesn't remember)... and she starts giving me heck of how I wasted money by missing 2 Sunday classes the past semester (Probably cause we pay for the classes and she did grow up in poverty...I swear she is more Asian then my grandmother or grandfather...and she is Hispanic...my dad is ok with 80's+ but my mom is mad if I don't get medium to high A's...irony is that dad went to UM... and mom...UTEP...But anyways)... I told her that it was for school purposes... which is 150% true... I was shooting a movie (a group project) and it was due in a couple of days(it's Sunday)...so I say... I need to finish my project and I can miss Chinese school (which I struggle in because I have no one to explain anything to me, my dad is as good as white (LOL))... we couldn't meet Saturday because (back to my dad being a redneck) my family purchased a large quantity of land in rural Texas...that was not in the best of Shape, on the weekends we often go work on it...there is sufficient hunting too and yeah... so my dad is a pretty Conservative (politically) being a pretty strong believer in the 2nd amendment...as am I... but anyways... guess where I was that Saturday... the other Sunday class I missed was for a different Movie project same situation... but instead of going out the 'the Ranch' as my family says (which it is respectively... I'm not talking about 10 acres...I don't want to give it away but I will say hundreds), we were shooting(film...lol not guns) Saturday too we worked the whole day(I actually missed going to 'the ranch' for this)... both Sundays I missed we did finish and finished into the night. So she gets very aggressively (even if she claims to being saying it 'calmly') in telling she only approves if I do not waste money and miss 2 days of class...and Like I said above... I told her it was for school reasons... she then goes... 'so'... and if she expected me to do both... and I'm like (i did not say... I wouldn't say this) '*** is wrong with you???? I worked my ass off and your giving my all this ********'... she goes I should have organized my times better and rallied the group better. Fine, i will give her that to some degree... but most of the time...we had homework (the class the movie was for is a VERY demanding class) and people had other things to do...important things ( my parents aren't exactly content when I say I can't go to 'the ranch' to put it lightly) and the world doesn't revolve around me (or us (my family)...they say that but do the opposite sometimes)....so I tell her there times in life when there is are only 2 things to choose from... you can't have both. and she still give me this crap... expecting me to do BOTH...and we fight... and she tells me... "do you know how ridiculous you sound???" and I tell her the same... I'm fed up with it... and I go "would you like me to give you the 20 bucks you lost??? in wasting my class???" she says "no..." she gets all bossy telling how she is the adult and she get to determine what I do...which I will give her the respect she is a factor, but she does not control me and to rub her 'power' in my face is beyond low. she tells me how she knows I'm struggling because I tell her and my father (I try not and hide stuff from them) and she rubs that in my face... and I say "what do you want me to do???? all the other kids have native Chinese parents! no one in this house can help me!"
but what does she want????
to make me angry???
I am trying to include her so I won't get criticized later on for 'not telling her'...I tell her 'fine next time i will get a zero on my project so you can get your 20 dollars worth' and she tells how 'noooo... she wants me to do both...and say I wish I could but I can't always have it that way...</p>

<p>then I walk away... and my older <em>cough</em>brown-noser<em>cough</em> brother calls me to ask what we were fighting about...
and he criticizes me on taking the very demanding class... and I tell him it'll look better on my college resume...and that it is a challenge... and I tell him I don't want to argue...and he tries to lecture me and tells me how I should expect the same treatment I give... </p>

<p>I'll keep it at this, I could go on on both of them...my brother in particular... but a lot of the stuff has nothing to pertain to this...this is already long... and I thank you if you read it... I guess I'm open to criticism... just don't be rude about it...</p>

<p>your experiences? My ears are open....</p>

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<p>First... paragraphz please, and "..." can not substitute for , or .
Second... My parents are purely Asian parents, they boss around my life. I fed up with it, but I'm living under their roof so I can do nothing about it. I have to make sacrifices so I can have a place to sleep at night.
3. you are like in the same situation. If you want, you can leave them, you don't have to complain about it. You either live under their rule, or you move out. It's simple.
4. got a blog?
5. Really. I don't see point of knowing one's ancestry and their culture and other stuff. but it is your choice to do so.
6. My parents knows nothing about me since I don't tell them stuff(not trying to hide them, just not tell them). They don't care enough to ask either. So I'm happy.</p>

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<p>Mgccl, I think it's very important to know about one's culture, and I applaud her for that.</p>

<p>I also don't believe that it's as clear-cut with "Asian" parents. Both my parents were born in Korea (my father was raised in a traditional Korean household even after moving here, and my mother came here after getting married). I still talk to my parents, not about everything, but enough to involve each other and create a family life.</p>

<p>Both people have to be willing to give in a bit. At one point our dad and our family/me were not on the best of terms, but after a few awkward talks, things are much better now. If your mom is really that stubborn, I guess the best thing to do would be to lay everything out and try to explain as best as you can. If this is all something you really are passionate about, it'll show. Even "Asian" parents have hearts.</p>

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<p>I think I have been whitewashed by my local Chinese Christian Church and my love for guns. I like it, too.</p>

<p>I've been forced to take Chinese school but I got my parents to stop when I started taking hard high school classes. I also took a whole credit of Chinese I on FLVS in 2 months.</p>

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<p>I do try and compromise, I don't throw a fit when something isn't my way.
My mom...is that stubborn, sometimes she is odd.
Grammar has never been a strong point by the way. I use the '...' way too much though, I'm trying not to use it now. </p>

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you are like in the same situation. If you want, you can leave them, you don't have to complain about it. You either live under their rule, or you move out. It's simple

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I don't complain about everything, and you can't say you've never had the same feeling. I DO live under their rule, but just because I do doesn't mean I can't argue to what I believe is unfair.

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4. got a blog?

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yes... but I don't use it. I wouldn't have anything to say most of the time and it would distract me from school. even though its summer the bad habit would persist well into or throughout the school year.

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5. Really. I don't see point of knowing one's ancestry and their culture and other stuff. but it is your choice to do so.

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I do, apparently. I believe that you should have some idea where the blood coming through you comes from. My dad doesn't really, he approves because learning Chinese would be beneficial to whatever I peruse. My mom on the other hand believes the same as I.

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6. My parents knows nothing about me since I don't tell them stuff(not trying to hide them, just not tell them). They don't care enough to ask either. So I'm happy.

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boy are you lucky, my mom in particular likes to know everything I do...if she knowingly knows I receive a text message...it becomes 'who is it? what did they say? how does he or she act? does he or she have any problems? but the one I hate is "is she your girlfriend?!?!?" and she says it in a different tone then the rest. as If I wouldn't tell her, which I'm contemplating on not doing so if she keeps up with this.
My parents don't force me to do much, its really hard to rally them. It took me several years to convince them to let me go to Chinese school... probably cause i was 'young and dumb'... but at least they take me seriously now.</p>

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<p>Too long...can't...concentrate...</p>

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<p>blah... culture restricts me...
so I do no culture...</p>

<p>Forget about what she thinks now... just remain a little longer... soon you will be free... and live in college...</p>

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<p>I wish my grandparents had taught my parents one of their native languages so that my parents could have passed it on to me (they didn't because for one set of grandparents- they wanted to be able to speak around the kids without them understanding; for the other- they wanted to be as American as possible so they refused to speak it).</p>

<p>-Norwegian on my mom's side.
-Italian on my dad's side.</p>