<p>Hey guys, I just joined this board because I am in desparate need of anyones help. I am a sophomore and I just transferred to a school that had ALWAYS been the school of my dreams. Last year, as a freshman, I went to a small, private liberal arts school, where I played football and got really good grades. </p>
<p>I hated the school, until the end of the 2nd semester, where I finally settled in and made some awesome friends. I realize now that I thought I hated the school, but in reality I was just homesick. I ended up transferring to this bigger, state school that I had always loved, for social reasons as well as more Major options. (turns out I don't like this major.. and the I was wrong about what I wanted, i loved the small school atmosphere.)</p>
<pre><code>Now, I sit here at my "dream school" and I feel worse than I did last year. Last year I made so many friends and had a great time and overall I can't help but feel like I made a mistake. I'm an extremely social person, I am in a couple clubs.. but it's just not as easy to make friends as a transfer student. I am pretty much so miserable and I want to go back, but I feel terrible. My parents are in a bad time right now, my mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer (but luckily she will be alright) and I just don't want to but this extra burden on them. I just wish I could go back in time and stay at my old school, which I thought I hated so much.
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<p>Any suggestions? The more and more I see people having fun, the more discouraged I get. I'm trying really hard to branch out, but I just feel like giving up. I kind of feel depressed, which if I told any of my friends that, they'd be shocked because I'm "always happy." I'm even about to go out to a party, but I'm not excited at all, I just feel like I need to atleast TRY to be happy.</p>
<p>I don't see why you can't arrange to transfer back to your first school. Why not look into it on your own by calling and finding out how to go about it without involving your parents. You could send in the application and see what happens. If and when you get re-accepted you could approach your parents about making a decision on which way to go. It will also buy you more time at your present school to see how you feel about it after some time has passed and you have had more time to adjust.</p>
<p>You're not the only one regretting transferring.<br>
I'm guessing your old school will be more than happy to have you back--maybe even for spring semester. Good luck!</p>
<p>Yes, what you are feeling is not so unusual. But it is no fun, I know. I really have to applaud you for not wanting to burden your parents with this worry. Because, yes, we do worry if we feel our kid is not happy.</p>
<p>I think it is an option for you to return to school #1. It is also possible that, with just a little more time, you will find school #2 is really going to be fine - because, remember, at this time last year you hated #1 and then ended up liking it.</p>
<p>So... as to strategy and tactics. Why not get in touch with your old school (Dean? Admissions office?) and tell them you might have made a mistake and are wondering if you would be able to return - either for spring 2008 or fall 2008? Then, continue to give your current place your best efforts and your most open mind. Once you know you have an option to return (which I'm guessing you will), it might lift a burden for you.</p>
<p>Then, if you do want to change, you can present it to you parents as a "problem solved", and it is unlikely to stress them out in the same way as it would if you presented it to them right now.</p>
<p>how much harder is it to make friends as a transfer? what if im going from a big school to a small school instead of the other way around, do you think that makes it easier?</p>
<p>these are your college years, and if you could be happier somewhere else, then get out of there. one huge advantage you have this time around: you're a sophomore -- you can be out of your dream school in 2 months! lucky you.</p>
<p>by the way, have you ever considered a third school?</p>
<p>I considered it a 3rd school .. but I don't want to make the same mistake twice. I thought about transferring to Virginia Tech, where a lot of my friends from home are. I know I'd be more comfortable. Thanks for all of your help, looks like I've got a lot of thinking to do! I'm gonna give this school more time and then I'll see. Maybe I'll send some applications out, just to have the option available. </p>
<p>Milkdud-- You can definitely still make friends, however, its a little more difficult because freshman are much more open to meeting people since everyone is the "new kid"</p>
<p>I just want to let you know that your are not alone in this.....I have pretty much the same exact story as you....small college to big state school I thought I would thrive at.....didn't work, I got no housing for this semester, I am miserable.</p>
<p>I never knew how good I had it at my old school - close to home, small classes (biggest was 40 kids, biggest here is well over 600!!). I was ignorant to think I'd like the classes more with the huge number of students (I like anomity, but not this much anomity).</p>
<p>I find myself daydreaming about the school I wanted to get out of so much, pretty ironic isn't it...</p>