Hi! I’m 20 years old and im currently on academic suspension and i’m so scared to tell anyone about it. In high school i was always on top of my school, graduated with my associates degree but when i went off to college it was something i wasn’t fully prepared for. i didn’t do so well my first semester so my second semester i tried to do better which i did but it wasn’t enough. i didn’t get financial aid but i still decided to go for my second year, and i did so much better but since i wasn’t getting any financial aid i couldn’t pay off my fees so i wasn’t able to schedule classes for this semester. my parents think i’m taking classes which i’m not. I don’t know how to tell them that i’m in academic suspension because they hold this standard against me and i feel so pressured 24/7 to become susccesful because of them. i don’t wanna let them down but i’m only 20… i have no clue what to do. i want transfer to a CC but i’m scared i won’t get in because ofcourse my gpa is not good. I thought i was going to be able to fix this by myself but i can’t. only person who i have right now is my boyfriend and he doesn’t even know anything either. i’m so scared that i’m going to let everyone down when i’m already letting myself down. can anyone give me any advice, please ?
I know it will be hard to do, but please, please, tell your parents.
i know i have to but i’m just not ready for what is going to happen. i’m so scared. i’m not quiet sure how to even go about it…
Is there another family member or friend who could be there when you tell them?
No one knows i’m on academic probation, not even my boyfriend. i don’t know how to tell him, i don’t want to disappoint anyone. i thought i was going to be able to fix this by myself but i feel like i’m just sinking.
Things like this happen. So you take a break and start college again when you’re ready.
Were you commuting or dorming? If you’re at home the best thing to do is just tell them that you’ve been struggling. It might help to go to the CC first to talk to an admissions rep. Find out what you need to do to enroll so you’ll have an idea what your options are. Big hugs. I know this can’t be easy.
It is hard, but it’s not something that will go away, and your parents will be notified eventually. Tell your parents, withdraw from college, and work for a few years while you try to figure out what you want to do. You already have an associates degree, so I don’t see the point of transferring to a CC.
Good luck.
Tell you parents you are withdrawing from college this semester. Work for a while and take some classes at the CC. You don’t seem to have a very close relationship with the boyfriend - he hasn’t noticed that you never have homework or classes to go to?
Where are you living? If you were in a dorm, and were dismissed from the college, you would have been asked to…leave the dorm.
If this is a true story, then tell your parents. You are wasting someone’s money on room and board costs…and that’s not right either.
Move back home, and get a job. Figure out what went wrong…college will always be there at some point IF you decide to return.
Oh…and you will need to pay whatever you owe to your current college…or you won’t be able to enroll in another college as a degree seeking student…so get that straightened out too.
After i got out on probation, i ofcourse had to move out because you have to be taking classes to be able to live on campus. So I moved in with my boyfriend. I think he knows i’m not taking any classes or soemthing because of other reasons but he doesn’t wanna push it out of me. . thank you for your response
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You got bounced out of the dorm but your parents still think you are living in the dorm? Seriously?
Who paid your college costs last term. Did your parents pay any of this?
Time to put your big girl pants on, OP. The longer this goes on, the worse it will get and the harder it will be to spill the beans. Own it: tell your parents, tell your boyfriend, and formulate a plan. Get ahead of this situation, before your parents find out in some other way - your deception will make listening to your reasons and plans moving forward REALLY difficult to listen to. Your boyfriend isn’t asking because he’s afraid of what it may mean for your relationship.
You can sit there and let the car crash or grab the wheel and steer yourself to the side of the road. It is going to be really tough, but you can do it.