<p>it's already the middle of the 1st semester and I realize I can't stand my roommate any longer. I thought it would get better but I was very wrong. She and I are COMPLETELY different and have nothing at all in common. The biggest issue for me is that I am the only one that ever cleans our apartment, she doesn't even know how. It's November and she still hasn't washed her sheets, as someone who is very clean and a germaphobe this is alarming to me. She showers about 1x a week which is also gross. All in all the first reason is that we do not share the same standards of cleanliness and hygiene. Whenever I do politely ask her to try putting her stuff away she just never listens. As well she will spend about 2 hours in the bathroom and when I knock to casually ask if she's going to be much longer she gives me attitude and is very rude about it. Once I asked if I could use the bathroom before she went in the shower and just said Uhh? so I had to go all the way downstairs to use the laundry room bathroom which means i had to go outside in the cold. She is always giving me attitude whenever I say the most casual and normal things to her and it's only me because she does not treat our other roommate this way or anyone else I see her interact with. One time I tried to kill a bug and she told me what's wrong with bugs I live with so many. That is disgusting. This is pretty jumbled, and there is probably more reasons and a way I could phrase it better but based on this would you think i would have difficulty changing my room?</p>
<p>I think that in this point of the semester you’ll have to wait until Christmas break. By all means, talk to the housing department now. I think they’ll make you wait to swap until you get back from break.</p>
<p>I would talk to the housing department/your RA and ask for ideas on how to handle this person. It will put her on their radar and perhaps give you some ideas. Also ask when you could switch (I don’t think they would necessarily make her switch).</p>
<p>Look on your housing site for room change procedures. Then go now and talk to housing. As bad as you think it is, basically you just don’t jive with roommate, so likely you just need to find someone to switch with or an empty room. Now is a good time to approach housing since students often drop out after first semester or do a study abroad and rooms open up…but depending on your school they may soon be in process of assigning these rooms to transfers or new students, so you want to get your request in early to get a new situation.</p>
<p>Although you do sound quite distressed, the only thing in this post that sounds like it impacts you is that you are the only person who cleans the apartment. The fact that she never changes her sheets or showers only once a week, while pretty gross, is none of your concern - you don’t have to sleep on her sheets, nor do you have to live in her body. And while you being the only one to clean the apartment is a problem, it sounds like you have multiple roommates (at least two others, given your language) - so that’s a problem you ALL have to work out, not just you and her. That might be something to sit down and discuss as a suite.</p>
<p>Whether or not you can move depends on how easy it is at your university. At some universities switching rooms isn’t difficult because there’s more than enough, so you wouldn’t have an issue. Talk to your RA about it - they might have some suggestions to fix things.</p>
<p>As already pointed out, you don’t have to sleep in her sheets or live in her body. Her poor hygienic habits shouldn’t be of any concern to you. I promise you that there won’t be any germs jumping off of her sheets and infesting yours. If she wants to be dirty, let her be dirty. Request a room change as soon as possible so that you can be sure to get out of the situation next semester. With only 4 weeks or so until the end of the semester (depending on the school), it’s pretty late in the game to be requesting a room change. You’ve made it this long, and I’m sure you can last another month. </p>
<p>those are all valid reasonings but it’s not only that I’m pretentiously disgusted by her hygienic habits. She is also extremely rude to me and not our one other suitemate, or anyone else i see here interacting with. It’s a toxic environment for me and I fee uncomfortable and unwelcome in my own living space.</p>
<p>Actually I think the uncleanliness does affect her. If one room, one bed, one chair in a house is dirty, the whole house is dirty (IMO). Poor hygienic habits ARE a concern, because if she’s nasty and lives in the same space, she’s making the space nasty. She’s also clearly rude. What’s wrong with letting someone use the bathroom before you shower? That’s just courtesy, and apparently this roommate doesn’t have it. I also agree that semester break is the time to change, because it might be easier to switch then.</p>
<p>Kill the bugs secretly at night. ;)</p>