You haven’t failed your son…at all. There are lots of colleges that are not $70,000 private universities where your son will get an excellent education.
The net price calculators are designed to be a very good estimate at what your costs would be.
I’m going to be a little frank, please don’t take offense.
If you are getting $0 in need based aid at colleges that guarantee to meet full need, and cost in the $70,000 a year range, your income is in the $250,000 or higher range per year and/or you have significant assets. If that is the case, your income is about five times the national average for a family of four in this country. Did you expect to get need based aid?
Colleges will not consider your support of aging parents in the calculation. That is a wonderful thing to do, but it’s viewed as a choice.
Now…what can you do?
If your son really has competitive SAT/ACT scores and GPA for those competitive and “prestigious” expensive colleges, it’s very very possible he could qualify for some merit aid elsewhere to soften the finances.
Is he a NM finalist? Is his ACT 33 or higher? Is his GPA 4.0 weighted or so?
Looking at other threads, it looks like he has perhaps a 1500 or so SAT, and a 4.0 or so GPA…is that correct?
Have you figured out what you CAN contribute towards college costs? That is an important number for you to figure out. And please…please let your kiddo know what you can pay. Sure, he can apply to many places…but he needs to understand your maximum ability to fund college per year.
Folks here are very very helpful. If you give some criteria, and provide your kiddo’s stats, I’ll bet folks can direct you to some great colleges that are within your price point.
If the stats I put above are accurate…start with these excellent schools.
- Pitt. Apply early for the best consideration for competitive merit scholarships.
- University of Alabama. Your son would get decent merit aid with these stats...guaranteed!
- U of New Mexico and Arizona...both have good scholarships for OOS students.
- What about your own flagship university? And the honors college there.
- Competitive, but what about University of South Carolina?
- University of Delaware gives decent merit aid to OOS students.
- Tulane...but apply early for best consideration for merit.
- Case Western...apply early AND show interest for best consideration for merit.
I’m sure there are TONS more…but where does he want to be? What does he want to study?