Adjusting

<p>Just to let you guys know if you're transferring out of state...being a transfer student sucks! The freshmen get to mingle and the upper classmen already has their friends. So you're stuck in the middle, and even if you're socially amazing, it's still really hard to adjust. Get ready to keep your head in books 24-7. Man, it sucks.</p>

<p>where'd you transfer to? I hear most of the schools I'm lookin at put their transfers together in housing or even put them in the same boat as freshman just so they can be around a general group of people.</p>

<p>This is what im doing the minute i'm admitted as transfer:</p>

<p>1.) IMMEDIATELY apply for transfer housing
2.) Join 10 different clubs
3.) Go to Orientation
4.) Go out on Thursday Nights
5.) Do random stuff</p>

<p>if I still can't get friends, I'm just gonna go for the girl, and get myself a girlfriend. Better than nothing =/</p>

<p>And if i can't get a girlfriend... I'm gonna study like mad and get 100% on every single exams so i get the professor's attention so i get good recommendation and connections for the future..</p>

<p>If I still can't do that... well... life sucks.</p>

<p>dhl3, doing those first five should guarantee you friends. In fact if transfers don't fare well socially it is often because they do not get transfer housing but you're making sure that you apply for it early so it should be no problem.</p>

<p>So I transferred to Vanderbilt this year as a soph, at it's a little tougher than I thought it would be. Some transfer students have really bonded and form a little transfer clique, but I'm not really into that since I feel as though hanging out with all transfer students all the time is really isolating and not really helping to meet people who have been at Vandy. At this point, I just know a bunch of random people in different groups... but don't have my own group yet. Does anyone know how long it should really take to finally get settled in and adjusted?</p>

<p>im worried about this as well. thinking of transferring to st joes, udel, loyola or penn state for the spring</p>

<p>not to sound messed up, but i wouldn't want housing with other transfers.....its stupid to clump them all together..its like the blind leading the blind....</p>

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not to sound messed up, but i wouldn't want housing with other transfers.....its stupid to clump them all together..its like the blind leading the blind....

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<p>most schools (like Berkeley) don't offer housings or dorms for upper division. They are expected to find an apartment of their own to live with their friends.
So yeah, unless you alreayd know some people from Berkeley to share a room in apartment, you really have no choice but to live in a transfer dorm if you want a dormmate.</p>

<p>what about schools like st joes, udel, loyola, etc.. anyone know anything about them?</p>

<p>ilovecalifornia, i guess i thought that too when i applied for housing, but it turns out i got my fifth choice--transfer housing--anyway, and the experience has been amazing. the people are awesome, and everyone's looking for a change, and they know what they don't want, unlike the frosh. maybe we don't know our way around or the good profs, but we all want an improvement and its been a blast seeking it out together....</p>

<p>I transferred mid-year (REALLY not fun) but didn't really find an issue in terms of meeting people. Most schools have transfer orientations (or mid-year orientations) where you get to spend time with other new to the school, usually transfers of deferred enrollment. Also a lot of schools have clubs specifically for transfer students, it might be a good jumping off point towards getting involved in the social scene at your new school. Good luck though, transferring is hard and lonely, but you wanted to go to that school for a reason, and I'm sure it'll all work out!</p>

<p>midyear transferring was bad?</p>

<p>Guys, making friends should not be difficult.</p>

<p>I tried not to make friends, and I still have an abundance with whom to do things on weekends. Keep in mind, that I was in two very small clubs last year, and none of my closest friends came from those clubs.</p>

<p>My closest friends just came from class; for instance, I asked one student in my intro to linguistics class last year whether she wanted to do the homework together, and after many homework-sessions, we are now close friends... oh, and she was a freshman.</p>

<p>If you are scared to approach a person because you are afraid of their reaction, think of it this way: if the person scowls, he/she is probably not worth being friends with anyways; however, if the person engenders a friendly conversation, consider your "brazenness" a success.</p>

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This is what im doing the minute i'm admitted as transfer:</p>

<p>1.) IMMEDIATELY apply for transfer housing
2.) Join 10 different clubs
3.) Go to Orientation
4.) Go out on Thursday Nights
5.) Do random stuff</p>

<p>if I still can't get friends, I'm just gonna go for the girl, and get myself a girlfriend. Better than nothing =/</p>

<p>And if i can't get a girlfriend... I'm gonna study like mad and get 100% on every single exams so i get the professor's attention so i get good recommendation and connections for the future..</p>

<p>If I still can't do that... well... life sucks.

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<p>I think studying like mad alone (and you can actually show that ure hella smart) can get you both friends and girlfriends=D</p>

<p>good post above.</p>

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I think studying like mad alone (and you can actually show that ure hella smart) can get you both friends and girlfriends=D

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<p>Studying ALONE won't guarantee you friends. And if he/she ever makes a friend, it would be out of wanting to take advantage of his knowledge to get help on homework and test. THAT is not a real friend. I'm not saying this is case for all Study-freaks, but it's the truth for most occasions. Perhaps a hybrid of well-rounded studying and social life would be sufficient to make good friends.</p>

<p>Seriously, who would want a friend who sits on chair all day and do nothing but stare at textbook with top ramen by his side?</p>

<p>Yeah, midyear transferring was REALLY stressful. Mainly because I didn't find out where I was going until...Thanksgiving, and hadn't heard back from 2 schools by the time of the orientation for the place I ended up going! Also, packing up everything all over again, moving it back home, then moving it into a new school over the course a month was a bit stressful. But all in all, I had no regrets about it, because it was something I felt I really needed to do.</p>

<p>studying alone wont guarantee you friends, but people will notice whos the smartest in the class and you will get that attention. THey might take advantage of your knowledge, but if you are smart and befriend the right ppl then i dont think you will fall into that trap. Go get 100% on every test and you will get that attention and people (and girls!!) will ask you questions which will lead to some kind of convo </p>

<p>=D</p>

<p>What if they label you as a geek or something. Or just want to copy your homework off you. xD</p>

<p>yea studying isnt the route for friends. being social, offering help, being nice, going out is the way to meeting people</p>