As my S23 navigates his acceptances/waitlists/denials, I have been trying to think of a framework that helps process the reality. One that I find useful is a “Return on Effort” framework. It is a simple mental model that goes something like this:
Categorize your effort during HS - Low, Medium, High. (Low = 1, Medium = 3, High = 5 points)
Bucket the excitement of acceptance decisions for various colleges as Low, Medium, High. (Low = 3, Medium = 5, High = 7 points)
Bucket the stress of waitlist decisions for various colleges as Low, Medium, High. (Low = -1, Medium = -2, High = -3 points)
Bucket the stress of denials for various colleges as Low, Medium, High. (Low = -3, Medium = -5, High = -7 points)
So, my categorization could look something like this:
Effort: Medium = 3 points
Results
College 1 (Medium excitement): Waitlist = -2
College 2 (Low excitement): Accepted = 1
College 3 (High excitement): Waitlist = -5
College 4 (High excitement): Accepted = 7
College 5 (Low excitement): Accepted = 3
College 6 (Medium excitement): Waitlist = -2
Total for results = -2 +1 -5 +7 +3 -2 = 2 points
Return on Effort = Results/Effort = 2/3 = 0.66. (Did not see results proportionate to the efforts put in)
Similarly, other ROEs could be:
2 (Results far greater to the efforts put in)
1 (Results proportionate to the efforts put in)