Advice about going Greek

Hey guys! This is a thread for upcoming college freshman or current freshman considering going greek. I feel like there’s not a lot of info about going greek on this website because many people aren’t interested in it on here, but I was so I’m sure some of you are, too.

I just finished my schools formal recruitment and began my pledge period. I’ve been talking to the older girls in my sorority, and this is my advice for anyone rushing or considering rushing.

  1. It really isn't for everyone-- every sorority has their own personality. A lot of cool, fun, and pretty girls got dropped from every single sorority. They're great people and good friends they just didn't fit the sorority type.
  2. Prepare to be disappointed-- Of course, a few people end up in the top house, but a lot of people also get dropped round one of recruitment. IT'S OKAY! It's not anything personal against you! And honestly you don't want to be in a house where you're not wanted no matter how popular they are.
  3. Keep an open mind-- IGNORE RANKINGS! Sure, a lot of people fit into the "top tier" of houses but when you're going through formal recruitment, which is just rounds of talking, really pay attention to the connection you have with people. If you don't connect with them, you're probably not a good fit in the sorority.
  4. You can only be in one-- When I went through recruitment, maybe 25 out of 500 people didn't get dropped by any house. Almost everyone got dropped by at least one. Don't worry about getting dropped. All you need is one bid from a sorority you love. If you get dropped by all, I'm sure there's tons of other things on your campus.
  5. Pay attention to the vibe-- Are the girls really friends? Do they seem to care about each other? If the answer it no, it doesn't matter how many frats like them and want to party with them. Look for a place where you can make friends and lifelong connections.
  6. Hazing-- DO NOT TOLERATE IT!! You don't want to be in a group with people who think you need to degrade your self to prove something. Typically, mid-tier and lower tier sorority haze less than top tier... a lot of sororities don't haze at all anymore. Honestly, if the vibe of the sorority is friendly close knit girls they probably didn't get hazed. If it's girls that only care about themselves, drinking, and partying they probably haze.

Overall, find a sorority you love because you love the people in it. Don’t pay attention to reputations or rankings and go to what feels right. If none of the houses feel right, there’s nothing wrong with that! There’s no shame in withdrawing!

I didn’t want to post this on greek rank because I feel like it’s a toxic site obsessed with rankings and tearing each other down. I suggest staying off of it if you plan on rushing!!