<p>Should I go into college single? It'll be hard to break up with my bf of 3 years, but I want to know if it is for the best. I am afraid to be heartbroken entering college. Will I be too busy to worry about his or my broken heart?</p>
<p>Yeah you probably would be too busy.</p>
<p>I went to college with a girlfriend. A girlfriend a few thousand miles away. </p>
<p>While the memories I have of her are nice, I think it would have been best if I had broken things off when I left for school. Hindsight is 20/20 though.</p>
<p>edit: I’m assuming you two aren’t going to the same school.</p>
<p>Yeah we are going to be far away. But he wants to keep the relationship and part of me wants to, but part of me thinks I’ll regret it.</p>
<p>The farther away you are from somebody, the more difficult it is to really maintain any sort of connection with them, even with stuff like email and Facebook. This happened to my best friends in grade school, middle school, and now high school. </p>
<p>Personally, I barely can even recall any of my good friends from middle school. I missed them a lot after I went to high school, but then I carved out a new circle of friends for myself in high school and eventually forgot about them. </p>
<p>Personally, I would just break it up. Sure, it might hurt for six weeks, but at least you know that it was for the best.</p>
<p>should I do it after the summer ends? I don’t want to be bored and lonely all summer.</p>
<p>Yeah, do it when you are about to board that plane for college. Only then would it make sense to your boyfriend, and perhaps, it would be much easier on him since he would understand why you want to break up.</p>
<p>What XX55 said.</p>
<p>While some couples have weathered more difficult circumstances (e.g. a significant other deploying to a war zone), they’re often married. Plus at 18 and going into college, you might find that what you want will change. </p>
<p>Who knows. You could both break up, then meet up during Thanksgiving or Winter Break and realize that you really do want to stay together. Those two or three months of school can give you a brand new perspective.</p>
<p>Yea I say end things. Out of my 5 friends who went to college in relationships, only 1 came out still in it, the others things ended pretty badly with both parties realizing that they grew apart during college and things were just really akward and tense when they got home.</p>
<p>I’m inclined to agree with DCHurricane. Work out an “arrangement” - agree to see other people, but to get together on your breaks at home and see how things go. I had several sorority sisters who did this in college and ended up marrying their boyfriends from back home, but they they were making informed choices based on their college experiences. Good Luck!</p>
<p>^agreed. Make a pact of keeping the future open.</p>
<p>What does it matter if you do or dont? its not like you’re realistically going to spend anytime with him while you’re there so either way. Plus the only thing you should focus on is your performance in school. all that other stuff can wait</p>
<p>I’ll be the voice of dissent saying that IF you value your relationship AND you’re willing to put up with how difficult it is going to be for both of you, emotionally and financially, stick with it. I had intended to break up with my girlfriend when I went to college, but we changed our minds over the summer. Two years and a transfer later (mind you, the transfer was a solid academic choice) and I couldn’t be happier.</p>
<p>You’re the exception that proves the rule.</p>