<p>I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago, but it's still been tough. Any advice on making it easier?</p>
<p>So far I've been advised to keep myself busy. I've tried to surround myself with friends and try to avoid sitting around doing nothing. A couple of my friends told me that whenever I feel like texting the ex I should just send the text to them instead. I've tried deleting the number from my phone, but I have it memorized. So I just changed the name to "Jerk not worth it" and hoping that helps.</p>
<p>I just wish things were like the way they were before, but it's too late for that now...ugh. I can't wait for college.</p>
<p>I had finals all week which didn't help much. Honestly, I've been throwing myself into things with my friends. We did a study party for finals. Lunch today. Lots of things. </p>
<p>I've also been spending lots of time yelling at people on CC. Made me feel a little better lol. </p>
<p>I hope some of this helps. I'm here to listen if you want to talk. I'm in the same situation.</p>
<p>There is no magic formula, unfortunately. However, rest assured that time will take care of your grief (though the feeling neither goes away for awhile nor does it dissipate completely). In the meantime, try to calm down whenever you feel desperate and refrain from interacting with the person. I realize this may all be obvious and useless, but it's always good to keep a sound perspective.</p>
<p>Time heals all. Just banish all those thoughts from your head. I mean, if you're that tempted to send that text, compose one that you really feel good about. If there's a negative response, you'll stop any "What if...?" that might be lurking in your head. </p>
<p>Just remember, the relationship is over. Don't put an ellipse on the end of it. Put a period and make sure this is 100% closed.</p>
<p>Similar situation here, and it's hard because the ex is probably my closest friend even now and will probably go and date a mutual friend of ours...
But I agree with keeping yourself occupied and finding some good in the bad. I, for one, now have lunchtime free! And I've been spending the past week's worth of lunches in the library reading books I've been meaning to get to for ages.</p>
<p>Don't try to wreak vengeance upon him. Just try to forget about it. Even if you find yourself thinking about him, don't act on your thoughts. No voodoo dolls.</p>
<p>Do NOT listen to people who say "just rebound". That, especially if your last relationship was a good one, is bound to hurt people. Sex is only one part of most relationships, and if you get back the sex you're still missing the emotional attachment, the mental security, the romance, and all of the above that you associate (females tend to more than males) with sex. Unless you're sure it's what you want, don't do it.</p>
<p>Side note: I got one ex, back when we were dating, a voodoo doll for his birthday. Part of me wonders if he's used it on me.</p>
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Do NOT listen to people who say "just rebound". That, especially if your last relationship was a good one, is bound to hurt people. Sex is only one part of most relationships, and if you get back the sex you're still missing the emotional attachment, the mental security, the romance, and all of the above that you associate (females tend to more than males) with sex. Unless you're sure it's what you want, don't do it.
<p>You were probably also in love with the feeling of being in love. You can get that back with the next person who clicks for you. After a while you'll look back and see that you were in love with each one of those persons, and that each relationship was a good one.</p>