<p>I'm applying to transfer to some schools in my home state, because I have no close friends at my current school. If I were accepted, I wouldn't stay in a dorm; I'd live with a sibling, whom I'm very close to. My rationale for transferring was that, in addition to having no friends, I'm not really one for the "college life"--I'm not a fan of partying, and all I do is study (which I admit, is not at all conducive to making friends, but my compulsive studying is a whole other issue in and of itself), so I might as well live in a place where I'd be comfortable rather than be unhappy here. But more than anything else, I want to be around someone who really cares about and understands me. Someone I can share things and laugh with. Being without anybody to turn to in college has sucked.</p>
<p>Sometimes, though, I've wondered if transferring would really be the right choice, since eventually I'll have to enter the real world and won't necessarily be able to rely on my family for support and friendship. I'll have to deal with being alone and having to (somehow)make new friends. I guess what I'm trying to say is that transferring would feel like admitting that I can't deal with the real world (and I know college is not really representative of the real world, but some of the things students do during college--move away from home, meet and befriend new people, adjust to a new place,etc.--seem to help prepare them for the real world).</p>
<p>But after every break, when I return to my current school I always feel dread and sadness. I felt dread even after Thanksgiving break last month, when I told myself I'd only have a few more weeks before Christmas break. The school I attend is very isolated and the town is really small; another advantage of transferring (if I get in) is that I'd be in a city, so even if I don't make friends there, I'll at least be better able to entertain myself.</p>
<p>What do you guys think? Should I stick it out at my current school, or should I transfer?</p>
<p>I’m thinking about transferring as well. And I feel the same way after coming home from break!I go to a small-town school and I feel like I’m stuck here sometimes. I don’t think the school is a fit for me as well. Also, I’m not completely statisfied with the theatre program here. </p>
<p>I guess it all depends about how you feel about the program you are in. However, If you do feel unhappy about your college, it never hurts to look at prospective schools and assess your situation.
I’m going to complete a full year at my school, apply to colleges and see how I feel at the end.
Talk the descision over with your parents over the holiday break, That’s what I’m going to do…</p>
<p>i agree with TheatreNU.
most college that are in the middle of nowhere are very good for social types, safe environment and most people from rural college temps to know each other either from high school or same neighborhood etc.
even if the school have a good program to offer. you shouldn’t be in a place were you learning with inconvenience and without people that cares about you. college is about learning and having fun while doing that</p>
<p>Plain and simple, college life isn’t for everyone. Just because you don’t fit in during college doesn’t mean you won’t fit in the real world. However, if you want to make your time at college a little more enjoyable, then i would recommend that you find a hardworking (just like yourself) friend to study with that has the same goals and objectives. I know this might not be the easies thing for you to do, but I would start looking around your classes for the kids that try really hard and do well.</p>
<p>i’m in a very similar situation. i’m 10 hours away from home and really want to be closer to home but i feel like this would be admitting to failure and not accepting that my life is changing. if i can’t live away from home now i’m never going to be able to live away from home. i figure if i have to learn sometime i should learn now. still i’m unhappy where i am. i guess i’m a really stubborn person and don’t want to admit that maybe i’m not as good with changes and homesickness than i thought.</p>
<p>No need to feel a failure if you don’t like college life. I don’t think you can compare your feelings about college to how you’d feel living on your own after college, they are totally different. I really don’t see anything wrong with getting family support while making the adjustment to living on your own. Everyone is different and there is not just one way to do things. I found college life to be hard at first, living in a dorm, relegated to frat parties, subjected to noise, lack of privacy, immature jerks, etc. Once I transferred and lived in my own apartment, I was much happier. Do what you need to do to be happy. Don’t force yourself to do something you hate. Be the individual you are.</p>