Adviice much needed..

Paying for College
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<p>Other threads indicate that the OP was an Early Decision accepted student to Carleton. Presumably the parents were on board at some point regarding the costs they would have to incur…and probably filed a priority Profile. The problems occured, presumably after the student sent in the letter accepting the ED admission.</p>

<p>OP…you are no different than ANY other college student right now. It sounds like perhaps you need to produce the required documents for Carleton to process and finalize your financial aid for your freshman year. If you don’t get it done, you stand to lose any aid they have offered you. Also keep an eye on the deadlines…there certainly IS one…and don’t be late.</p>

<p>Carleton can call your parents but they are NOT going to get in the middle of a parent/child tiff. That is a family matter. They may politely ask for the documents…and your parents may politely refuse. If that is the case, your aid will not be awarded to you. The college is NOT going to make an exception for you because you had a tiff with your parents…especially since they clearly were involved in the process this year already.</p>

<p>You have a couple of choices that I can see:</p>

<ol>
<li><p>Figure out a way to QUICKLY make amends with your family so that you will have the necessary documents for this year and subsequent years…and plan to keep the peace.</p></li>
<li><p>Find a less expensive college…perhaps a community college…where you could work full time and take classes part time.</p></li>
<li><p>Get a job and work until you are 24 and will be independent for financial aid purposes.</p></li>
</ol>

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<p>I’m confused. You told your parents that you don’t want them in your life, but now you seem to want them in your life? If I were your dad, I’d give you at least a year to grow up and rethink things. I’d need to be convinced that the change is more than superficial. </p>

<p>Your parents aren’t your personal doormat. Think about it.</p>

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<p>I don’t think the OP wants them in his/her life, but he/she is probably not going to Carleton unless they ARE in his/her life.</p>

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<p>^^^^ If he were my kid, Carleton would be a dream for a few years from now, completely dependent on whether he matures sufficiently to earn that opportunity. Sometimes life can give you the education that you really need, and just when you need it - for free.</p>