I don’t think the OP has done a great job of convincing people that he’s serious, but I think people are over blowing the “looks don’t matter in attracting mates” line.
Of course what’s inside someone is much more important that what they look like. But let’s be honest. Looks matter a lot in initial attraction. I’m not trying to make the OP feel bad. I just think it’s worse when people lie to try to make someone feel better.
I’m sure the OP doesn’t NEED cosmetic surgery, but I think it’s disingenuous for people to act like it would have no chance of changing his life for the better.
I happen to find women with Romanesque noses attractive, but I’ve seen women with really big noses that I have not been attracted to because their nose was too big for me. Does that mean I couldn’t find them attractive after getting to know them? Of course not. But let’s not act like a physical feature can’t have a negative impact on someone’s looks and their ability to attract mates.
I’m sure the OP, if he isn’t living under a bridge, knows the impact that his nose has on his looks. A bunch of people here trying to tell him that it has no effect is not going to change anything.
I’m not saying that he should have the surgery, but I think he has every right to want it, and I don’t think that makes him vain or superficial.