Afraid I might drop out next semester

<p>I'm a rising sophomore with literally no friends. No one texts me, bothers with me. I feel very alone and depressed. I've been visiting a psychiatrist and therapist; neither has been able to help me. I've joined clubs, joined a sport, everything I could possibly think of to make friends. People say that I'm a little quiet, but so are a lot of people that have friends. It is not something that I have control over- it is just the way I am. I have tried to change for a long time, but I haven't made any progress. </p>

<p>I hate myself and I don't know what I'm doing now. My grades are mediocre, so transferring won't work. I'm doing research this summer-that's only because I did well in orgo this year ( my only decent grades.) My home life is even worse, so I didn't want to spend the summer there. I'm miserable and not sure what to do.</p>

<p>Focus on your research and don’t screw it up.</p>

<p>Are you joining a club or group and then never talking? If you just wait for people to engage you then it ain’t gonna happen, you gotta walk up to a cluster of people and join their conversation.</p>

<p>Ok, let me rephrase this in terms the CC robots will understand-</p>

<p>Currently a 2.6 GPA → will be a 3.3 GPA by end of fall semester
34 ACT
Tons of very good extracurriculars in high school and college
Lots of volunteering</p>

<p>I need to leave this school immediately! As in transfer this year. I don’t care if it is Liberal Arts or a Big university at this point. just a decent school that will let me in. </p>

<p>If I am rejected everywhere sophomore year, can I reapply junior year and transfer as a senior? </p>

<p>Thank you.</p>

<p>Perhaps you need to reflect as to why you are being “rejected” as you put it, because if you don’t figure out why it is happening, it is likely to happen again.</p>

<p>Also, most schools don’t allow upperclassmen to transfer.</p>

<p>Join a club that actually does something… Or if they already do discuss the things they do with them. Take part in what’s happening. The clubs you’re joining might be too big, as it is easier to make friends in smaller groups (hence the whole “join a club” thing which aims at making a huge university smaller). </p>

<p>Try to focus on the impression you’re giving people. If you’re sitting with your arms crossed over your chest, looking down, and frowning, chances are people won’t want to come up and talk to you. Try to open yourself up, sit up straight, practice smiling a tiny bit by default rather than frowning (people’s default expressions are often frowns and this can be a little off-putting). </p>

<p>Additionally, try to go up to people and talk to them. It may be hard at first, especially if it’s in a group. If it is, go up and ask “Can I sit here?” and they’ll probably say yes, and then sit down and try to interact in the conversation (if it’s in a club then the conversation will usually be about the club, so it’s more likely that you will be able to talk than if you just approached a random group of people eating lunch under a tree).</p>

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<p>You might want to look into medication… It won’t be a magic fix, but it could potentially help (if you’re not already on it that is). Also consider where you live, you may have Seasonal Affective Disorder. I’m not a psychiatrist, but you may want to talk about these things with yours. </p>

<p>Hope I could be of help.</p>