<p>I am in the middle of my 4th semester of college. I have now been on academic probation for 2 semesters and I'm finding it hard to be motivated to go to get extra help when I need it. I had a rough patch during the last year struggling with drugs and my thoughts which I have now gotten under control. I go to all of my classes and do most of the homework but I am still getting the gut feeling that I am not giving it my best and I might actually drop out of college.</p>
<p>On top of that I am constantly worried and thinking about my struggling mom and sister that live 2000 miles away and the only real family I have here is a distant aunt who thinks very highly of me. The thought of having to tell them I dropped out makes me sick to my stomach as I know for a fact that I can do better but right now I am scratching at the last strands to stay in school. </p>
<p>I do have friends and such and they said that they do not really know what to say or a measly "that sucks" because they are not in my position.</p>
<p>I'm not sure what I'm hoping to get out of this post. But it would help to know that there is someone that could help out in how I should face my issues and better myself.</p>
<p>you need to get some better friends, some who maybe have similar experiences with yours, or can offer you guidance. You live 2000 miles away from home with no family network there to help you. Most times, the phone cant cut it for someone like you. Therefore, you need to SURROUND yourself with positive influences: good friends (not people who you simply hang out with), a gf/bf perhaps, mentor of some sort, seek out a professor who takes an interest in you. TALK to people, figure out where their heads are.</p>
<p>All I know is that you need to change up what you're doing, because you seem very depressed and unhappy. You shouldn't be feeling this way at college.</p>
<p>Go talk to the counseling staff on campus. You might be well served by taking a gap year, or by taking a smaller load for a while and working, until you get clarity on what you want to get out of school (other than a degree and a social life). It may be that helping at home for a year or two is the best thing you could do for yourself-but only someone who knows you and your situation well can give you good advice. The first step on the road to maturity is knowing when you need help and getting it.</p>
<p>wow this site really likes telling 'confused' or 'troubled' students to skip a year. Don't do that. The older you are the harder it becomes to go back to school, especially if you land a job or something of that sort which makes it even harder to go to school. I have family who were in similar situations, decided to work fulltime instead and take 1 or 2 classes a semester only to fail those classes every semester. sure enough college isn't for everyone but if you're passing your classes right now you may be well served to consider possibly transferring close back home if you just want to be closer to your mom and sister. go to the counseling center in your school. what you need is just some guidance. i've felt like dropping out of school since freshman year of high school. and not much has changed since then. all i do is remind myself of all the people i've encountered without college degrees and the kind of jobs they have. that motivates me real quick. you just need to pull a descarte and answer very basic questions as to why you're in school and start building on those answers so you can remember why you're in school.</p>
<p>Go to your college counseling office. Your kind of concerns are what the staff is trained to help with. Go their quickly because the closer it gets to semester's end, the harder it is to get an appointment.</p>