almost got in a fight with my roommate

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<p>Ok long story short im rooming wit my best friend and 2 other guys. Me and my best friend got into over the bathroom saying it stunk and I didn't smell anything so I still sprayed. Anyways me and him going at it and then he gets personal and I exploded then to the point I pulled out a knife ( that's how angry I was) didn't use it if course. So he picked a chair and I took it from him and threw it at him. The part that got me is he found it funny the whole time. </p>

<p>Well now I'm in my room with my door locked.</p>

<p>Im really angry and I'm really contemplating keepin my distance to the point I wont say ish to him cuz Its ok to talk junk but wen u get personal
thats different. And he don't want me to get
personal cuz I can really **** him off</p>

<p>Way is the best thing should do cuz I already wasn't in a good mood to begin with? </p>

<p>And also we have gotten into verbal arguments before but nothin escalated</p>

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<p>What the hell is wrong with you? Pull a knife on your room mate? Who does that? You have anger management issues and/or probably listen to too much Linkin Park.</p>

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<p>You probably shouldn’t be publicizing such interactions on the internet. Sounds like you get set off easily and he finds it entertaining.</p>

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<p>Ummm… look for a new place to live or kick him out? How do you know the guy in the first place?</p>

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<p>Are you a female?</p>

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<p>No I’m not a female smh and we met last year and became really close and no I don’t have anger management problems I have just went thru alot in my life and I had to let something out. U rite i shouldn’t had pulled the knife out that was taking it too far.</p>

<p>Not that simple, we signed a lease for a year so we still got like 9 months left</p>

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<p>I would try to not pull out any weapons in the near future. It could lead to a phone call to a police and an arrest following.</p>

<p>Try your best to not show your anger like the poster above me stated simply because he might be getting a kick outta that and is trying to anger you even more.</p>

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<p>If you just had to let something out that means you have anger problems. And you pulled a knife, that means you have anger problems. I think you should go see you RA or the councelors. And you could get in trouble for having a knife in your dorm room i bet.</p>

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<p>We don’t have a RA since we live in an appartment off campus.</p>

<p>That’s my 1st time ever pulling a knife and yea u are rite, I do have anger problems since I get offended very easily. I think i got that from my mom cause she has anger problems.</p>

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<p>lilplaya, you need to grow up now. Apologize to your roommate at once, you are SO wrong to have pulled a knife on him no matter how much he ****ed you off. After you apologize you need to make an appt with your counseling center on campus and KEEP IT! You need to address this asap. You may have learned this destructive behavior from your mom, but YOU will be the one who needs to answer to the consequences of your actions. Please get help.</p>

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<p>pulling a knife on somebody is a good way to go to jail.</p>

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<p>Sounds like you might not be responsible enough to live with others. Keep this in mind before you do something stupid like getting married.</p>

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<p>OP, Your post is very alarming and although I am a parent I can tell you that your behavior is not typical of college age students or anyone for that matter. You should deeply consider speaking to someone regarding that outburst which could have easily escalated to one or both of you getting seriously injured or worse. </p>

<p>You mentioned that your mom “has anger problems” and although that statement is not clear, it could be assumed that you grew up in a disfunctional home. Children of angry or abusive parents grow up to be angry and abusive husbands/wifes/parents. Since you recognize that you have a problem you have made the first step in doing something about it------GET SOME HELP.</p>

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<p>lil…playa…</p>

<p>I didn’t know they had gutters in colleges.</p>

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<p>It’s not okay to pull out a knife, even in a heated argument. That’s not a typical reaction and can definitely lead to people being seriously injured. Please seek some help!</p>

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<p>Could been worse…he could have pulled out a gun. </p>

<p>But no seriously, like others said…I think you need to get help. Please go see a counselor or take anger management classes. Remember, the hardest step is to admit that you have anger issues. It’s okay to get angry at times (cuz everyone does) but then pulling out a knife is a whole different story. Please get some help first before you end up OJ Simpsoning your roommate.</p>

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<p>You pulled a knife on him and you threw a chair at him.</p>

<p>You do not seem to grasp that this is a big deal. It’s a really big deal. And nothing he said in any way justifies what you did.</p>

<p>You’re lucky he didn’t call the police and have you arrested.</p>

<p>You will be lucky if he doesn’t either up and leave, with you responsible for paying his share of the rent (since he doesn’t have to live in a home where this kind of thing happens) or get a restraining order to force you out.</p>

<p>And you’re lucky he didn’t defend himself, because you could have gotten seriously hurt or you could have seriously hurt him – and landed in jail for an extended period of time.</p>

<p>You owe him an enormous apology in which you take full responsibility for your actions (and don’t use the knife-pulling just as a way of showing how badly he was behaving, and don’t really complain about his behavior at all, because while it wasn’t good it does not remotely begin to justify your response), at the very least.</p>

<p>You also need to figure out what can you do so that this never happens again, not even once. I’m not kidding. This is the sort of thing that, if it happens once at the wrong time and place and with the wrong people, can derail your life in an enormous way, including jail time, losing relationships that are important to you, serious injury, and death. And if it happens repeatedly it can destroy the lives of people you care about. </p>

<p>Although I’m not sure it’s reasonable to say that someone cares about someone else if the first someone repeatedly brutalizes the second. I’m in no way saying you’re a bad person, but if this is something you repeatedly allow yourself to do when you get really angry, you will become someone that nobody should want to be around.</p>

<p>One place to start might be the student counseling center at your school. I’m sure other people will have good suggestions.</p>

<p>But you do not seem to be grasping what a big deal this is, and that concerns me.</p>

<p>Not only do the people around you not deserve to be treated in this way, but you deserve better too, and I really hope you get help not only for the people around you but also for yourself.</p>

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<p>I hope your “best friend” wises up and gets the hell away from you. It’s time for him to find a more suitable living arrangement.</p>

<p>OP–If this is the way you treat your “best friend”, you’re out of your mind. </p>

<p>According to your original post, it sounds as though it was very easy for you to pick up a weapon and use it to threaten someone. This is what is so scary. It’s as if you felt it was a normal response to pick up a knife and threaten someone—as if it’s no big deal. </p>

<p>You picked up the knife with no hesitation. Then you go and blame your mom for your anger issues rather than take personal responsibility for your aggressive behavior. Get some professional help ASAP.</p>

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<p>word up playa sounds like u did nothin wrong jus next time getta glock put dat ***** in place nah mean?</p>

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<p>This is utterly ridiculous.</p>