Alone/studying on prom night?

<p>Any other juniors/seniors experienced this? I feel so ashamed of myself. I remember when i was in middle school, going through the same situation as i am now, promising myself that h.s would be a complete 180. I did not want to be the stereotypical geek who missed their prom b/c no date, more "important" things to do, and other BS reasons.</p>

<p>aw. =[</p>

<p>well, I almost missed junior prom because of a model UN conference that day and the day after. but then I changed my mind and went to both.</p>

<p>I can sort of agree. I missed prom to go to a party. Except I studied AP bio most of the time. =] I'm glad it wasn't my senior prom...</p>

<p>lol @ insecure people who think prom is worth a damn because their "friends" are getting trashed</p>

<p>When it comes down to it, anyone who passes up a night of MGS4 + basketball for anything else clearly lacks intelligence.</p>

<p>piccolojunior: Um, my friends and I had tons of sober fun at prom. The real party is afterward, when you and your friends make s'mores and watch movies and stay up all night only to go the beach the next day. Yeah, there were people who left prom early to go home and get drunk/high, but there are also people who just love being with their friends and being wacky.</p>

<p>Advice for the future: don't study on prom night. Go to prom, have fun with your friends, and have your parents write a note to get out of school the day after. That's what 99% of the juniors at senior prom did. All of your teachers will understand.</p>

<p>haha i had fun</p>

<p>Prom is the best opportunity to get ****faced for sure.</p>

<p>No.. just go to an after-prom party if getting wasted is what you want.</p>

<p>A lot of people want both. Stop being so judgmental and all-or-nothing.</p>

<p>It's alright, opportunities like these will arise in the future, i.e., college.</p>

<p>And people wonder why high school students can be so insecure.</p>

<p>I've been asked twice by people that I didn't like to go to prom and I declined both. I'm going with my friends and I really don't feel ashamed at all. Prom isn't just for couples and the sooner you realize that most of high school 'worries' are ********, the happier you'll be.</p>

<p>Thank god I'm gone in a week.</p>

<p>I missed both my junior and senior proms (in fact, the latter is tonight ;) because I couldn't find a date. All the ones I like are either taken or have pre-emptively stated that they wouldn't go with me. I thought about going with a few friends, but then I realized that I played the neutrality doctrine too much and didn't have any groups friends I felt comfortable going with.</p>

<p>It's one of those things where you want if you don't have it. Maybe it isn't that great of a party or anything, but it's more about social life and curiosity.</p>

<p>To be quite honest, if I could choose between a decent prom date and (guaranteed safe) sex with a supermodel, I'd go with the former (assuming the latter exists, which it doesn't). To add to this, it is often more than just prom. If one cannot get a prom date, they're less likely to have dates for any other dances.</p>

<p>I basically made my way throughout high school without attending a single dance. I know nothing about them, but my friends talk about them all the time. It's more important than anything, and while I act like it's no big deal, on the inside, I'm absolutely crushed.</p>

<p>well, I missed my prom too because I couldn't find a date same as your situation excelblue. and I really suck at getting a date. I am a male and really cannot talk to females to get the right one.</p>

<p>Because most girls don't like guys that are so afraid to talk with them that they can't ask them for an ERASER, much less to go to prom.</p>

<p>That's the way the world works, unfortuntely. But one of you please imagine the absolute pain of having to listen to a self-concious guy try to stammer out nervous jokes or agreeing with EVERYTHING you say so they don't look stupid. This is something that girls sense intuitively and you have absolutely no one to blame but yourself if you were too scared to ask anyone.</p>

<p>I don't mean to sound like a dick, but until you get over the crushing fear of what other people think of you, you will never be self-confident and will miss many opportunities to make friends.</p>

<p>Mostly agreed. I didn't figure this out until three months before prom.</p>

<p>By that time, all the girls whom I'm friends with would mention who they'd like to go to prom with, etc. Getting a few friends - no problem, but getting a date - quite a different story. So, I can talk to the girls, figure out who they like, etc. but it becomes very obvious they see me more as a resource than a buddy.</p>

<p>Would one really want to go on a date with someone they barely know, when they've known someone else for more than a few years?</p>

<p>Since that basically defined my social life, I was in the same standing with regular friends as I was with the girls . 3mo isn't enough time to get close enough to someone, when there is relative competition.</p>

<p>Reputation is another issue. I'm an extremely geeky person, and to be honest - I can't have much fun without keeping being geeky. It shows very clearly wherever I go. I suppose I can hide it, but when I do so, I get bored way too quickly to have any fun. It's like asking a gangbanger to be a religious prep for a day - won't work. They always say that people like me need the right girl - maybe one exists, but afaik, I don't know her!</p>

<p>Being geeky isn't social suicide, at least in the barest definition of the term.</p>

<p>I love physics and I'm going into the field in the fall. This doesn't mean that I don't like to talk to people who dn't like physics or that all I think about is science. It also doesn't mean that I am ashamed of being 'smart' in the street definition of the term. So you're good at math/chem/chess/spud guns. So what? This isn't an either/or world, no matter how much some peoplw want it to be. You don't have to be smart OR popular, you can be both.</p>

<p>prom is fun no matter what you do before, during, or after. just go.</p>

<p>Of course, there's the necessity of having the ability of being able to separate it from social life, when necessary.</p>

<p>I've come to learn that I have basically no life experience outside of academics or all the geeky computer stuff I'm in. Ask me about music or movies, and all I can do is give a lecture about the RIAA. Talk about Metallica, and I'd paraphrase what I saw on Wikipedia the other day.</p>

<p>When absolutely necessary, I could suppress all of that, but then, I'm no longer myself and would be bored out of my mind.</p>

<p>Then I suppose your two options are: accept it or stop whining and do something about it. And if someone is incapable of realizing that not everyone wants to hear about Schrödinger's cat at a party, they have bigger problems than can be solved on a forum.</p>

<p>I would just like to say something on behalf of all the girls of the world who have a thing for nerdy guys: We exist! I enjoy intelllectually stimulating conversations, and personally wouldn't mind talking about Schroedinger's cat at a party, although I probably wouldn't bring it up. I wish there were more guys at my school who felt the same (the only one who does has a complicated history with my best friend, so I can't go there). </p>

<p>Speaking of him, he is a living example of why you should go to prom, even without a date, provided you can get into the spirit and except it for what it is. He made the mistake of going with a couple (if your going stag, go with friends or it will be awkward), and not trying to have fun for the first part. Even so, he had a good time in the end and was glad he went, although he spent about two hours being miserable. Those two hours were entriely his fault, though. He had about 30 girls trying to get him to dance with him, and he would have had fun a lot sooner if he had just gone for it.</p>

<p>Third point, that a suprising number of people miss, girls can be shy too! I went with friends to my prom, because I was too scared to ask the guy I like. It is a fact widely acknowledged by girls that guys can be super oblivious, so don't assume that no girls like you, unless they have explicitly hinted that they don't (on the flip side, if they tell you they don't like you, accept it and move). A combination of shy girls and oblivious boys leads nowhere, so one side has to take the initiative and change something. And don't assume it will be the other person, because they could assume the same thing and that would end sadly. </p>

<p>We are not all super-confident, fear-sensing machines. We have internal conflictions and insecurities just like boys. We also have individual preferences. For instance, some of us actually find insecure guys cute, although its pretty frustrating when they are so insecure that they never work up the courage to ask us out (be it to prom or elsewhere). So don't worry so much about asking someone to prom. Just give it a shot and do your best. At the very least, it will get easier each time.</p>

<p>Sorry that turned into a bit of a rant. I guess I'm just frustrated with the way things are going right now.</p>