<p>So my "best friend" is really getting on my nerves. No matter what happens she always tries to one-up me, and she is literally the most self-centered person that I know. She also always tried to copy everything that I do, and I know that "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" but it's REALLY annoying. I also have reason to believe that she's been telling people my secrets, and she's really jealous of me. I know that that sounds like I'm bragging, but she really is: things were going super well with my crush, and she purposely messed everything up because she had no luck with hers. She completely sabotaged my plan to get his number (as I later learned while talking to him), and she would do everything in her power to keep us from talking to each other. She is constantly whining, and she never misses an opportunity to remind me of my failures. As a competitive person, that really hurts and she knows it. Don't get me wrong, she's done nice things for me too, but I just feel like I can't even see her without wanting to hide. Am I a terrible person for feeling this way? I really want to distance myself from her this year, but still talk (we have a lot of mutual friends, so ignoring each other could get awkward), so if anybody has any advice it would be greatly appreciated.</p>
<p>Your location is Panem, as in North America of the Hunger Games? </p>
<p>Ok anyways, I’m a guy and this doesn’t happen to us lol, but I would tell her to stop and if she doesn’t then extend your arm and slap her and distance from her and find a new best friend?
Lol maybe I shouldn’t be giving you advice</p>
<p>You’re not a terrible person and you should never feel obligated to be friends with someone who makes you feel miserable. Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to be there for your best friend and to put up with her crap because that’s what best friends do–but it’s also important to recognize when a line has been crossed.</p>
<p>The best thing to do is to talk to her about it. If she’s really your best friend, then it should be worth the effort to try to fix things–or at least try to get some closure if you’re really set on ending your friendship. But I understand that can get messy, so the second best thing is really just to slowly stop hanging around her so much. Try not to sit with her at class or during lunch–but if you really can’t avoid it since you have mutual friends, just talk to your other friends instead of her. Maybe also try to branch out and make new friends. It’ll make distancing yourself from her seem less forced because that’s how friends usually drift apart–they make new groups of friends and slowly stop talking to each other.</p>
<p>Anyways, I hope you guys can sort things out but if not, best of luck distancing yourself from her! Hopefully it ends well.</p>
<p>Cut communications with her and if she confronts her call her a b**** and tell her that she knows what she’s done. Chances are she hates you as much as you hate her. End the relationship ASAP</p>
<p>Thanks guys! I’ll try all of your suggestions (except for slapping her–lol @Achilles09)</p>
<p>You’re definitely not a terrible person. That is a very frustrating and awkward position in which to be. I agree with supercoolturtles, sit down and talk to her seriously. Don’t hold back, but be tactful. Even if YOUR friendship with her isn’t going to work out, make sure that she looks at herself with fresh eyes and attempts to improve herself so that she doesn’t hurt other people in the future. That’s the right thing to do, even if she possibly won’t listen and despite how flawed her character is. At least try to help her out, because she can have serious problems with insecurities.</p>
<p>She is a straight up frenemy. Gently and GRADUALLY cut her out of your life to avoid any awkwardness. When you’re with your mutual friends, and she’s there or if she’s mentioned, just acknowledge her slightly and then move on.</p>
<p>Associate with better groups of people that have high standards, are original and work extremely hard. She is honest and that is a good attribute in a best friend but she needs to learn to use proper discretion. When and where and how…</p>
<p>You don’t have to do everything with her 24/7. There are things you both get along great with and discuss just fine on topics I assume without issues arising. Stick to those.</p>
<p>Anything else would be a no. A reason to distance yourself and find others to spend those energy and time on socially or getting active with.</p>
<p>A rule of thumb to take is…</p>
<p>Work is work
Friends are friends
School is school
Classmates are classmates
Family is family
Siblings are siblings
…and…acquaintances are acquaintances…
activity partners are just that…activity partners and nothing more.</p>
<p>etc…</p>
<p>Don’t mix them.</p>
<p>She sounds like a great gym partner though for workouts…lol.</p>
<p>I’d just talk to her. If she continues acting like a…female dog…then end it. You’re not a bad person for wanting to avoid her.</p>
<p>Same with @animpaffliction.
Honestly, I’ve had a friend just like that, and I’ve even caught her copying my school essays and rough draft for my college essay (aw hell no). So I went out to lunch with her and we talked about all that ***** and we got to some sort of understanding and agreement.
So I think you should talk to her if it’s really that bad, it’ll solve more than running away from the problem?</p>