So I haven’t been on good terms with my roommates for quite some time now. I will say however I have never initiated any conflict. I keep to myself, and clean up after myself. They on the other hand do not always choose to do so. Its more of a half done kind of thing. Before our falling out I kept my silverware in the designated area with everyone else, but noticed there was food particles in it. I hate kitchens, and generally an area with tile flooring. I prefer for them to be spotless, but not everyone feels as I do. Then the drying rack where they keep dishes they have “washed” contains food particles, and a nasty grey water slurry that makes my skin crawl. Needless to say I do not use those things. I kept silverware in my room, until my big “dish wash” day, and hand washed my dishes before placing them in the dishwasher.
The pots and pans were theirs, but when I would go to use them, even though they were put back as clean they would have grease and dried food in them. It made wanting to cook a nightmare. Since all I had were my own plates and a few eating utensils I started eating out. Before break I went into the kitchen to grab something to eat with, and the silverware placed in the till as clean had food caked up on it. This was not the first incident.
I do not mind sharing, but having partially cleaned plates, bowls, saucers, and silverware, especially when its yours is frustrating. I even found my roommate mixing her hair products in one of my bowls. When I confronted her about it, she tried to argue and say that it was okay because she cleaned them very well after use. She has her bowls and silverware and her best friends bowls to use, but instead used mine and mixed everything with my silverware.
I went home and brought back my pots and pans, as well as cups and anything else I was lacking, and separated my items. When I did they got upset and sent a drawn out text in a group message attacking me together, as usual. They said I was wrong, and that I needed to ensure that I used nothing of theirs. I was told to purchase my own trashcan, and whatever else I lacked, and that they did not need to use my items. In response I simply told them that I was tired of coming in and finding my dishes dirty. I told them about the till and the drying rack as well. They told me if I had a problem with their stuff then I should have cleaned it, but I was tired of doing that. They tried to tell me that they did not notice any of these things, but I don’t see how you couldn’t. It did not bother them, so I changed my stuff so that it would no longer bother me. Am I wrong for this?