You said for her to go to Rutgers Camden " it will cost ME a bit more than the other programs." She wants to go somewhere else, and it is cheaper to go somewhere else – my vote is let her go. My daughter got into a top program in her home state, just a few miles from home. She could have lived on campus and had a full tuition scholarship. However, she had always dreamed of going away to college and experiencing life in a different part of the country. Since she got even bigger scholarships that made going out of state cheaper than staying in-state, that was fine. The university she chose is ranked lower than the university in her home state, but she is glad she chose it. She got to establish her independence and identity as a college student in a place where she would never be running into high school classmates, going out to places she had already been to many times growing up, invited to see parents way too often on weekends, etc. Instead, everything and everyone was new. This is what she wanted to experience – not just the education, but exploring an entirely new place far from home. It takes courage to do that, so it can be admired rather than opposed.