<p>Be honest now, I want to set reality into perspective. </p>
<p>I have a 2.7 GPA and go to a small state college I'm betting that nobody here has ever heard of. I am a liberal arts student who has pretty much ZERO idea what major to transfer into, has no special talent in anything, a two digit IQ, and a long history of mental problems. Basically, I'm screwed for life.</p>
<p>I pretty much haven't studied hard since middle school because when I actually had motivation back then, my peers shot me down anyway, calling me insane, retarded, et al. Since then any good study skills I had atrophied into laziness. </p>
<p>Not to mention I can't even hold a job for a month! I usually end up quitting to do my co-workers and the customers a favor. I've never had so many people lose their temper at me at such a short period of time.</p>
<p>No creativity. No friends. No connections period. </p>
<p>You'll be fine. You can talk to the counseling center to relieve some stress about school...and then move into the library. Haha. You just need to decide for yourself that you really want to do this (get good grades/graduate) and then you need to set out a plan to do it (allotted study time, time you spend in class, relaxing time). Plus you need to consider how many semesters you have left, and what your specific goal is.....</p>
<p>^ I'm not sure if they'd understand. I've had bad experiences with them and they just pretty much confirmed I'm a loser and psycho without just saying so.</p>
<p><<^ I'm not sure if they'd understand. I've had bad experiences with them and they just pretty much confirmed I'm a loser and psycho without just saying so>></p>
<p>Then you need to see another counselor who's willing to help you without passing judgement on you. Granted, you have to make an effort and be able to accept constructive criticism while in counseling, but a reputable counselor/psychologist will not dismiss you as a "loser" with no potential.</p>
<p>Have you seen a physician to check if there is some sort of underlying medical problem that's causing you to have these problems?</p>
<p>To cut down the major problem, what are you interested in? Gaming? Reading? Sports? Pets? Your interests will usually lead you to a major decision, and if you're still lost, choose random courses (that may also double to fulfill gened req's) in different major categories to test the waters and get a feel for what you may be interested in. </p>
<p>As for your GPA, unless you intend to go to grad school, don't put too much weight into it, you can always improve it later once you settle in.</p>
<p>Lastly, for friends, consider joining some clubs and activities on campus. That's the easiest way (I've found, at least) to make new friends.</p>
<p>the issue isn't your grades, but your self-esteem. work on that first and then you can fix everything else. based on the op, it sounds like you either have no confidence in your ability to get things done (whether in school or work) or you make up excuses for not doing work (other people bring you down). i mean if you want to get things done, you'll get things done. if you don't want to get things done then you'll continue along the same path. it's as simple as that. easier said than done when you're the one that has to make the change, but like everyone here has told you get some help for the self-esteem issues. change that and you can address the other problems.</p>
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<p>Yes. My physician said I have social anxiety and OCD, he is a nice person but I only get to see him once a month and I'm a afraid of opening up for some reason, mainly because he assumes I'm more intelligent than I really am for some reason. Intelligent persons tend to look down those who are not as intelligent.
I guess I am sensitive to people's expressions and movements. I don't want then it even seem judgmental or surprised about anything at all, I also don't like assumptions - good or bad - because they give me expectations I probably can't live up to.</p>
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<p>I wanted to leave before someone decided to fire me. I was doing them a favor. I could just walk into a room and see someone look exasperated as if their eyes were rolling on the back of their head or they were condescending.</p>
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<p>I will try that next semester since this one is almost ending. Too bad the clubs in my school aren't very active. It's still worth a try though.</p>
<p>I'm interested in reading, especially novels and the social sciences, but most careers with money are math-science-technology oriented which are things I do not have a natural talent for. I'm also not going to grad school, so that is a relief for me as at least I will graduate college knowing I won't owe a cent.</p>
<p>And I thought i was screwed with a 3.3. No but seriously, if you're not planning on going to law school or med school right away you're not completely screwed.</p>
<p>You have really low self esteem. You should try counseling. I hate counseling myself, but I understand that there are benefits. If you hate your therapist after a little bit, try to stick with it anyways or get a new one. But don't just completely quit therapy. Also, are you on an antidepressant or something? I suggest Luvox, it's excellent for your symptoms and there's a low risk of side effects. Plus it's a very well-established drug that's been in use since the 70's.</p>
<p>Try to build your self confidence. I know it's hard, but every time you catch yourself being negative, just tell yourself that no, that's not right, and think a positive thought instead. It sounds dumb, but it can really help.</p>
<p>Don't be afraid of failure. That's one of my biggest problems too. When you study, don't think about in the sense that you're trying to do well but you're going to fail anyways. Instead, think about how interesting the material is and how you want to learn as much as you can about it. Unless you want to go to grad school, a 2.7 is not bad and you could bring it up to a 3.0 after a couple of semesters. Dabble in lots of disciplines until you find something that you're passionate about. Don't worry about choosing a major now unless you're a junior.</p>
<p>Join some clubs. Even if they're not very active (like at my school), the few core members who keep coming back week after week really do care about the club, and they might become your best friends. Even having one good friend could boost your self esteem so much. Don't be desperate, as people tend to run like crazy from that. Don't think that you're going to fail and they'll hate you; think about your good qualities and how much other people will enjoy those.</p>
<p>As for jobs, no one is going to fire you unless you steal money or something stupid like that. Don't just quit because you're afraid of failure.</p>
<p>I've been through many similar things. I would love to help you. PM me if you want to talk.</p>
<p>So at least you have a plan. You just need to stay on top of it. Not everyone has to have a 4.0. This manager and my dad's work never hires students with 4.0s because his personal philosophy is that they do not have very dimensional skills besides studying themselves to death.</p>
<p>Just don't give up. Giving up is the only bad thing you can do. Every 5 more minutes you spend studying will lead to something good.</p>