Am I mishandling my roommate situation (hate my roomie?)

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<p>I just want all of your opinions on what I should do/if I'm doing something wrong.</p>

<p>My roommate has sleep apnea and snores ridiculously loud - after 2 weeks of getting NO sleep (even with earplugs I can still hear her - most nights I would just BLACK OUT from exhaustion after a few hours of lying awake and sleep through my alarm and miss class) I started spending most nights in a friend's room on the floor because they have a little futon. At this point my issue was just that she snored.</p>

<p>But then she started having loads of sketchy ass people over in the room until 4 or 5 AM. Then my expensive black purse (with nothing in it luckily) disappeared. I was told her friends were having sex in the room, and found pubic hairs on my bed.</p>

<p>So I sat my roommate down and explained everything to her because she was being a little cold to me what with my not sleeping in the room. She denied (obv) that her friend were having sex in the room and said the fact I was sleeping in my friend's room was understandable and she was fine with it and not offended. We both swore that we didn't have a problem with each other, and she SEEMED completely sincere.</p>

<p>Since then, my purse mysteriously appeared under my bed... I know for a fact it was not there, as I cleared everything out looking for it.</p>

<p>So I thought things were fine between us, but after that conversation she's STILL being super cold to me and will not speak a word to me or look at me unless I talk to her first. So I've given up trying to be friendly/negotiable with her. She's obviously fake. Also since then a necklace that was sitting on my side of the room magically teleported onto her jewelry rack.</p>

<p>I told my PA and hall advisor about all of this and submitted a room change request almost a month ago.. but it's going to take a whlie. Meanwhile I'm still sleeping on the floor of my friend's room, thankfully they're completely cool with it and actually don't WANT me to move out. </p>

<p>Thoughts? Opinions? Am I handling this situation completely wrong?</p>

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<p>Well it seems like you’ve followed all of the steps right. You definitely tried to solve the problem prior to taking serious action.</p>

<p>If it were me, and my roomie has sleep apnea and snores horribly, I would request a change even if they weren’t doing anything else. Sleep is very important and if you can’t get it than that is a huge problem. </p>

<p>Did you tell the roommate that you have requested a change?</p>

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<p>“But then she started having loads of sketchy ass people over in the room until 4 or 5 AM. Then my expensive black purse (with nothing in it luckily) disappeared. I was told her friends were having sex in the room, and found pubic hairs on my bed.”</p>

<p>This is vile. I don’t think that I personally could even be on speaking terms with your roommate after this. I think you’re handling it really well (better than most would, I’m sure).</p>

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<p>Yeah I did tell her I requested a room change. What really bugs me about this situation is that to the onlooker who doesn’t know the whole story (most of our floor) I’m sure I look like the antagonist and a major *****. Since I’m the one staying in a whole different room every night, and she is on better terms with most of our floormates than me. I don’t go telling everybody what she did, so the vast majority don’ know, and for some reason I get the feeling she is saying bad things about me to people… but what can you do.</p>

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<p>^ Continue to take the high road. The problems you are mentioning will eventually be known to others all on their own. You do not need to be the one to bring them to light. Within a short period of time these things have a way of becoming public knowledge. Your roommate will eventually have another roommate who will let it all be known. You will be in another room soon. You might want to mention to your roommate that sleep apnea is a potentially dangerous condition that she should look into having diagnosed during the winter break. She should be wearing a special breathing mask called a CPAP.</p>