<p>I have found that enlisting the help of others has been really helpful. His counselor has done well advising him as have some of his teachers. He also has some friends who are good influences. So, he receives all the info he needs but most of the time he won’t initiate unless he’s asked to do so.<br>
I finally realized that my husband and I had been focusing on his intelligence/talent and not his effort. A previous poster mentioned that being intelligent may have kept him from learning the value of hard work. I heartily agree. Our D is 2 years younger and works twice as hard in school and is very successful. Our S just seems to require more step by step guidance than our D. I wish I had figured that out sooner.</p>