<p>...I won't lie, over the past few weeks I've legitimately been losing sleep and panicking over whether or not I'll get into the University of Michigan. It's getting to be a serious problem, mostly because of how much it means to me and the fact that I KNOW that I'll be just crushed if I don't make it. Sometimes I look at my stats (I was deferred from Early Action, but got that really cheery letter) and think that I have a really good shot! Sometimes I look at my stats and think I'm an obvious failure and I should give up already. Asking people if I have a shot feels meaningless - I've seen plenty of awesome students get turned away, and I don't think I should feel confident in my chances at all at this point. I just don't know, I don't know what to do. My first trimester grades were three As, a B+ and a B- in German (after having been out of German classes for a year, but I don't know if that explanation will hold any weight or not...). I'm freaking out over whether or not I want to send those, what else I might want to send, I just... I just don't know what to do and I'm terrified as heck.</p>
<p>How do I deal with this? I mean, how do I deal with the fear and severe nervousness that comes from being deferred? How have past deferred students coped with it? How are any current deferred students dealing with it? It's really starting to hurt me, I don't think this worry is very healthy and I don't really know who else I should ask. :(</p>
<p>What you already know is that you’re putting too much value on your acceptance to Michigan. You need to not see your entire future as based upon your acceptance to a certain school.</p>
<p>Start looking into the other schools you have applied to. Pick out residence halls, start selecting clubs, look at meal plans, even start building a four-year schedule if you want to. Getting excited about your other options will help get rid of this all-consuming focus on Michigan.</p>
<p>Also, if you feel your heart is set on Michigan, you might consider taking a gap year and reapplying. If you do something valuable with your time, you can become a much stronger applicant with your same stats. Programs like City Year (cityyear.org) are great opportunities to do this if you want to.</p>
<p>If you start looking into these options now, it will help distract you. Also, if you aren’t accepted, you’ll have a better sense of direction and won’t be so crushed.</p>
<p>Finding somewhere to focus all your nervous energy and preparing alternative options you feel good about will help you through this.</p>
<p>Don’t worry, i feel the same way. I’m generally good at accepting failure/disppointment, and I move on pretty fast. But not being admitted to michigan ( i was deferred from engineering) is something that I don’t think i will be able to get over. I have pictured myself there from the time I was a child. I always thought my future would be Michigan. But I’m starting to look into other schools just in case.</p>
<p>I was rejected from my first choice and early decision school before being accepted to Michigan. I know it may seem like if you don’t get in, it will be the end of the world, but trust me you will be happy no matter where you end up. Don’t set the standards for Michigan to be too high, because if you do get in, it may not live up to your high standards or expectations.</p>
<p>—Take a few video tours online of your 2nd and 3rd choice colleges. You’ll see how great they may be…just in case!</p>
<p>—Send an update to UMich Admissions Dept…reiterate how UMich is your #1 choice and how you’re looking forward to send in the confirmation $ / deposit the day that the acceptance letter shows up…highlight some new/interesting accomplishment.</p>
<p>—No, unless they ask I wouldn’t send in your latest grades. Showing them all A’s would be great, but when you’re in the deferred pool showing them a B+ and a B- wouldn’t be good, especially the B-.</p>
<p>I see… again, maybe once Second Trimester grades are available, hopefully they’ll be a bit better, but I don’t know… They did not specifically ask me for my latest grades, they mentioned that it was an option, but also said that everything in my current application should suffice for a good decision. </p>
<p>Luckily for me, I recently became the Team Captains for our Varsity Quiz Bowl team, the very Quiz Bowl team I happened to write one of my essays about! Should I possibly note that once I write in something?</p>
<p>As for alternate choices, if I don’t make it into the University of Michigan I’m almost certainly going to Michigan State University instead. I respect that college a lot and I know their James Madison School for political science and law (heading into Pre-Law) is a very good school. It’s just… I’d still feel very bitter at first, I know that. I have a goal, and I’m going to to give up on it, no matter what.</p>
<p>Thank you guys so much for your encouraging words! It really helps to have somebody to ask. :)</p>
<p>Sapharadon, you’ve been given some great advice here from others on what to do/how to deal with your anxiety over the deferral at Michigan. My son was in yours shoes last year and received his acceptance in late March, which seemed like an eternity. As thrilled as he was to be accepted, and he’s attending there now, he still was attracted to the Ivies and thinking of applying as a transfer student for next year. However, after completing his first semester at Michigan, he is thrilled and cannot imagine being anywhere else. If you ultimately get accepted to Michigan, that’s great, congrats and hopefully it will live up to your expectations. If you do not, really try to embrace the next school on your list and give it a chance and hopefully you will be happy there. If not, there’s always the transfer option down the road.</p>
<p>I’m in the same boat, u of m is my first choice and I was deferred too. But I have other options, as do you, and everything will turn out as it is meant to be</p>