Well, @RichInPitt , I learned that everyone has and will always have individual differences. After much talking with my new friend who happened to see everything unfold, he totally saw where I was coming from. Hey, at least one person agrees with me. So, of course, I treated him to lunch and a shopping spree. When we were heading home, we actually ran into my old friends at a stoplight. Immediately my friend grabbed my phone and played “Bad Reputation” by Joan Jett and told me to roll down all the windows and open the sunroof. I was confused at first until he pointed out the guys in the other car and I saw how his plan was formulating.
Naturally, I went along with it and boy was it satisfying leaving them in the dust with 400 hybrid horsepower. I just decided life is going just like Mrs. Thatcher always said,
“If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing.”
And @CottonTales , what makes you think I’m not a real college student? I mean just because I am one doesn’t mean I don’t like nice things. Just like what Tammy Bakker said, just because one is a Christian doesn’t mean they don’t like nice things.
Sorry, but in my opinion, your new “friend’s” idea of mocking other people is sickening.
In addition, someone who is taking out $100,000 in college loans should not be taking anyone on a shopping spree (on one of your credit cards, right?). You should be paying your bills, not thinking you can buy friends.
As for @thumper1 , i never said that i was buying friends. Nothing in my reply stated i was buying friends. He was just nice to me so I wanted to be nice back. Nothing wrong with being kind and compassionate unlike some people.
You seem to enjoy pushing other people’s buttons. Typical college sophomores don’t generally spend their weekends on CC. It doesn’t matter whether their families are upper, lower, or middle income. Pretty much all of them have something better to do.
In the adult world, people don’t take others on “shopping sprees” because they were nice to them. In some situations it would be interpreted as attempting to buy friends. In others, it could be seen as an attempt to buy favors (i.e. bribery), so if you really do that kind of thing it’s in your best interest to cut it out.
OP wants the power of self indulgence. We’ve all seen it in our kids. Usually as little ones, often as teens.
As parents, we know it’s sometimes a one shot deal and they quickly process our message to be better individuals, do right rather than self indulge. They make that choice.
But we all know there are kids who insist on failing, first. Somehow, doing what they want matters more. Sometimes, it’s a big hole to fill.
Any of us whose kids took longer to grow into young adults knows this.
But I’m on the ‘no excuses’ side. Immaturity and irresponsibility are hard to watch.
There will always be one or two kids they can find to endorse them. A blindly reckless sort, one or two with matching neediness, or those who can be bought off, to get affection or false loyalty.
A shame when we see it and kids resist.
Life’s more than that. So is self.
And self-worth.
Apologies about responding late was a tad bit busy.
@lookingforward , I’m curious, how am I the immature and irresponsible one? I did tell them that their plan wouldn’t work and I was the one that was brushed off. I believe I was the mature one to tell them that their plan wouldn’t work and the responsible one to bring an alternative that would work.
As for buying friends, that I don’t do.
As for buying favors… I may or may not have done that. Then again, RA’s are incredibly understanding to sweep noise and room violations under the rug when there is an incentive! But then again that’s life lol.