Oh, @ordinarylives, best wishes to you and DH. You put some of this in a needed perspective. Hugs.
On Thanksgiving, I volunteered at a med facility and will be there again tomorrow afternoon. We can get bent out of shape about retail, but there are many ways people do for others. It’s just not all me and mine, gifts and meals at the exact time you like.
OP’s comment was about her son, experiencing this for the first time.