<p>We have a really poor relationship the first semester, and as I was going through a roommate switch process, she refused to cooperate/move (after stating she was switching, by the time she told me she wasn't, it was past the deasline), and agreed for a third time to room rules, so I'm stuck with the situation for the next few months. This semester has gone better than last, but the issue is she is the most ignorant person I have met. Ignorant as in she fails to realize she lives with a roommate/floormates.
She continues to come in at odd hours, slam everything, then leave (she no longer sleeps in our room), which is somewhat understandable, and normal. But multiple times I've been listening to music while studying, and she is aware of this, and decides to go onto her computer and blast the music while singing. Or the other day, someone burnt something in the kitchen, so she decided to spray 1/4 of a can of Lysol throughout the hall and room, and then leave. Leaves dishes sitting in the room while Ramen is still in it until it currdles. Sprays excessive amounts of hair spray and perfume next to my desk, while I'm there, blasts her music on max level, and decides to take a nap, and other strange things along that line. Get's naked in the room while I'm there (I've seen her nude too many times, the bathroom is 10ft away)Now I can understand an occasional moment, and I don't mind her leaving her crap everywhere (bras and underwear on the floor) as long as it doesn't smell/get in the walking path, or things along those lines, but disrespect/high levels of ignorance add up.
We have some mutual friends (but I never do anything social with her after her behavior last semester), and she keeps insisting on hanging out, and I subtly say I have my own group/plans, and am about to just tell her I have no interest in being her friend. I've made it pretty clear I didn't want to hang out w/her last semester, and I'm fine with not being friends with my roommate, but she continues to interupt me while I'm working, going to class etc; to have "deep" conversations, but only does this when I'm busy.
We've been over the whole music playing/spraying stuff thing before, and she hasn't adjusted. Should I just start reciprocating until she gets the point? How do I put up with her?</p>
<p>I feel your pain. I had a roommate freshman year who would invite people over at 2am claiming she needed to study in a group. The reason some of these kids came to our room? They didn’t want to disturb their own roommates. Now, does that make sense?</p>
<p>She would also constantly slam doors, whisper really loudly, turn on lights, have sex, come in drunk and throw up or cry, all way past midnight… The sad part is that I probably would have really liked her if I hadn’t been forced into rooming with her. In that kind of situation the smallest things, ones that you can normally ignore, start to really grate on your nerves.</p>
<p>I ended up sticking it out. We weren’t talking by the end of the year, and haven’t spoken much since. Not the ideal. If I could do it all over again, I would probably speak up a lot more or move out.</p>
<p>My question is this: can you be the one to move? You don’t necessarily have any more right to stay in the dorm than she does. </p>
<p>Also, before you start studying and listening to music, do you ask her if it will bother her; do you put on headphones? She might be retaliating to show you she doesn’t appreciate your behavior, and you might have to lead by example.</p>
<p>What if when she walked in the dorm room one day, the entire place stunk, there was spilled Ramen all over the floor, and you were chilling naked at HER desk blasting hideous music and singing terribly?
Might put things in perspective for her ;)</p>
<p>“Sprays excessive amounts of hair spray and perfume next to my desk, while I’m there, blasts her music on max level, and decides to take a nap, and other strange things along that line. Get’s naked in the room while I’m there (I’ve seen her nude too many times, the bathroom is 10ft away)”</p>
<p>Is she at least good looking?</p>
<p>Get 10 other people over to the room when she’s gone. Let her return to find the 11 of you dancing naked around a pentragram, chanting, with sticks.</p>
<p>When she’s noisy at inappropriate times, tell her to shut up. When she sprays her stuff around, grab it out of her hand and tell her to stop. When she leaves her dirty underwear around, pick it up with a stick or something and throw it on her bed. If she questions it, tell her you’re sick of seeing her crap on the floor. When she walks around naked in your room, open the door wide and ask if anyone in the hallway would like to see a free peep show. </p>
<p>Definitely find a friend now and make plans to room with her next year. Tell your current roommate that you’re counting down the days because you can’t wait to get the heck away from her.</p>
<p>She sounds like a pretty normal roommate to me…I too first thought that college students were civilized, considerate people.</p>
<p>this makes me so glad i have i single…</p>
<p>Try talking to her about the situation and how both of you could mutually benefit if the problems are fixed. Ask her how she would feel if you acted this way. Be very carefully, and hopefully, the solution will come.</p>
<p>If not, it’s time to get your RA involved. They’re there for a reason. That’s one of the main things that make the dorms different from sharing an apartment with strangers.</p>
<p>Part of the college experience is to learn how to deal with people. She is going through that process. You should actively take part in that. :)</p>
<p>I missed the deadline to switch rooms, she claimed she was moving and when the deadline approached she suddenly couldn’t/wouldn’t switch, and no one wanted to switch with me.
To the post a few spots up, she’s average looking despite take an hour to get ready for any event in which she leaves the room.
I’m living in the sorority house next year (all rooms are singles).
The music thing- I am studying with music on, when she is not in the room, and she enters and decides to blast the music and sing. She used to sing/play guiter and record herself, put it on Youtube, and then complain about how bad she was. Her first rule was don’t throw up in the room. Lone behold she comes in at 3am during the first weeks of school and throws up multiple time because she smoked too much.
I am actually hesitent to say anything, because at times I honestly think there’s something going on in her head, because normal people don’t be actin that way…</p>
<p>Ahhh you go to Case! One of my best friends is there as a first year, too. I doubt your roomie is her, though.</p>
<p>Before you retaliate and make it a full on war, I’d say try sitting down and talking with her first. Warn her that you’re seriously thinking of acting crazy if she doesn’t stop acting crazy. Do this or talk with your RA and see if your RA has any advice. If nothing else works, then proceed onto more desperate measures.</p>
<p>^
We’ve talked, and the major things have subsided, mostly due to the fact she no longer sleeps in the room and spends less time in the dorms. It’s more her personality I guess, she’s very clingy to people and annoys me b/c she has this idea that we could be really good friends, and the things she does seem very odd to the point I seriously think there’s more then a few screws loose…
The conversations/reminders/playing mom haven’t made her more aware of her actions</p>