<p>i'm at the top of my game right now, so here's another one:</p>
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So, what is the real skinny on dating at boarding schools? Is there much 'real' dating? Percentage of kids? Or is random hooking up much more prevalent? What are the obstacles to healthy boy/girl relationships in a boarding situation vis-a-vis public/day schools?</p>
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All schools - public vs. private, day vs. boarding - have issues whether its drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, depression, bullying, etc. What would you tell parents to be most on the lookout for at a boarding school? What issues
are morep revelant or unique to a boarding situation?</p>
<p>Thanks!!!
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<p>well, there are boyfriend-girlfriend relationships obviously, and they are common and visible, but you might not call it dating since there's nowhere to go on a date (nobody has cars). i'd say maybe 50% have one of these at some time during their bs careers. random hooking-up less common, i'd go with 30-40%. certain groups more than others: varsity hockey or lacrosse, 90-100% on both counts i'd say. kids in the strength/fitness class all 3 terms, well, a little less so.</p>
<p>probably the biggest obstacle is how quickly word gets around; i mean, everybody knew everything everybody else did. so if you were a girl, and you did something with your boyfriend, everybody was gonna hear about it. also, these couples tend to see each other a lot (because of the residential factor), so they get tired of one-another pretty quickly i think. you get this in public schools, but not to the same degree (especially the rumors part, it could really get weird at times).</p>
<p>problems to look out for at prep school? i'd say drugs and alcohol are as common in prep schools as at public high schools (maybe less so), but the consequences of doing so are much more severe, so that's important. also, abuse of add meds is going through the roof, and i'll bet it becomes something of an "epidemic" soon (if it isn't already). i think a big problem with boarding school is a sort-of cabin fever thing, where people feel so simultaneously isolated and surrounded that it starts to affect them. i don't think this is always the easiest thing to detect from behavior either, but i'd warn you about it anyways.</p>